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Does knowing that you “fit in” a personality type actually makes you feel better?

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  1. Somnium

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    I’ve been thinking about how science can actually explain a certain predictable form of being. In fact, look at you now, taking part on a social media which allows people to access much more than you could ever imagine yourself telling someone you know in person.
    An index, a catalog, an acronym, reveling (as per say) who you… are?


    Can you remember when you’ve taken any remarkable personality test? How you’ve felt about the result, or how you’ve taken it into consideration. Knowing yourself is seen as an advantage, even more when you manage to love yourself the way you are, what would you say about it?
     
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    Yes. It had a positive effect on me.
     
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    It made me feel less odd, like there might be more people like me, or that think and perceive the world the way that I do. . lot of things began to make sense
     
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    Somnium

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    Relatable, yeah.
    You guys have recognized who you are, is that supposed to be the ultimate factor about knowing yourself? I mean, that was supposed to make life simpler, still, not to its boring aspect.
    Does your life seem different to you? Now?

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    I felt more excitement about my Harry Potter house quiz on Pottermore than I did about my MBTI. Priorities :m036:

    For myself I don't really put much stock in the significance of MBTI, but I appreciate that it has brought me to a forum of like-minded, talented and equally bat-shit crazy people (hello lovely you whoever is reading this).
     
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    The human need to categorize is inescapable, primarily because it's what keeps us alive.

    With consciousness developing in human the categories became less directly related to life or death; before maybe the category was safe food to eat and bad food to eat.

    Now it's

    This kind of person is good this kind of person is bad

    Which if you boil it down it's about

    I need to belong to a tribe
    Because humans in tribes have a greater chance of survival

    So wanting to be liked
    Wanting to fit in
    It's an innate survival mechanism. Why we feel so bad if we don't fit in, is because the logic (though we don't consciously realize it) is that we are going to die

    So yes it was helpful because I now feel less likely to die
     
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    Yeah, I like my personality.
     
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    Understanding the mbti types and how they apply to people helped me not only to understand myself a but better, but to understand others from the past and present too.
    It's not perfect, but close enough.
    It's crazy to think there are others out there with similar approaches to how they think about things :)
     
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    Looking back, I was a really lost child but that time I decided to take the "Divergent aptitute test" and guess what? Took the test to feel less lonely but actually managed to reafirm how lonely I was since none of those characters were real and I was a Divergent lol
    Well, you got a point there, it's definitely better to be crazy knowing that I can connect with other unusual craziness like mine
     
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    I guess that's why introversts struggle so much trying to find themselves, since there's this inherent need to feel understood.
    It's like you've gotta walk through a meaningless path, therefore you are in charge of motivations to keep on walking... but predictably, one doesn't get their answers if they aren't able to share their doubts, so you won't feel fulfilled knowing that people out there have so much to show you.
     
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    For me it's still kinda utopic, you know? hahaha I could never actually meet someone on my terms of intensity, meaning that I've never had the chance of meeting others who were willing to talk deeply about such matters.
    I see this place as a personification of this possibility, it's quite stimulating actually letting some thoughts out hahaha
     
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    That's the intellectual ego thing

    Really it's your biology thinks you have a better chance of staying alive if you're with people, and being with people means they have to like you to want you to stick around

    The idea of connection is a biological illusion.

    A nice one, but an illusion nonetheless.
     
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    I do think its helped me come to terms with some of the more existential parts of my personality.

    It also helps me play to my strengths. Knowing how people like me operate means I can bring that into my day to day life to improve it, and other peoples.
     
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    Sometimes its better to enjoy the painting than look too hard at the brush strokes.
     
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    Sometimes it comforting for me to recognize a pattern in my behavior and attribute it to type. It allows me to step out of the feeling and back into my mind to take control.
     
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    Oh, that's so romantic. Might want to lighten up there.
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    You think you know yourself but you don't. So you might think you love yourself, but you don't.
    The pursuit of knowing yourself leads to an expansion of more truthful self love.
     
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    That's a thing, indeed. After all, what comfort would it bring to know that you're part of group in which no one actually stimulates your true self...
    I guess that's why I've felt so wrong for a really long time, but knowing how big the world is and how unique can't be unique at all, not completely, made me end up here

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    Probably the best thing I'll read today
     
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