Does Fe Drain You?

It drains me unless there is a specific way I am helping. Teaching sometimes drains me and sometimes gives me more energy which involves some Fe, but also Te I suppose. I like to feel as though I can make some sort of positive impact on the world helping people to feel stronger. It is when I am confronted with the vastness of needs or the impossibility of problems that cause hurts, or a thousand underlying tensions between people based on a myriad of distorted perceptions that I am completely wiped out by it.

 

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It doesn't drain me too much anymore, because I use it so often. But needing to use Fe -- as in, it's in overdrive because of a situation and there's really no way to stop using it until the situation is ended -- is incredibly exhausting.

 

Yea it does...I prefer my Fi...but FE is my dominant...

 

That makes sense...seeing as how I try to bury my FE...

 

Being Fe inferior, Fe doesn't usually drain me, but instead I'm oblivious to it. I just don't get it unless someone is being overtly Fe (super dramatic ESFJs...*cringe*).

Si drains me though. In fact, I've been going through an impatient phase with the Si world I have to inhabit. I had a lady get mad at me (and complained about it/asked us to stop talking when she and her SFJ friends were just gabbing away) for having an intuitive-level conversation with a coworker because her ISFJ mind didn't understand it. That's frustrating because it's what we intuitives have to go through every day. So, I basically told her (with more tact) that she was out of luck and would have to deal with it...welcome to our world.

 

yesyesyes

I don't like it when other people come to me to talk randomly. Especially if it is all about them and I only have to node. I feel used than :becky:. I literally have to put myself open to enjoy talking. There as to be a sign on my door that says "open".

 

I relate to this also.

Especially when in my own private life, there seems to be a lot that is draining for me, and trying to categorize others needs in order of priority. Then there is friends, work and groceries...

 

I like showing my Fe I am not sure I understand this. I am not good with Sensing. That could also be because I have ADD.

 

Not really. Seeing as it's apparently more dominant than my Ni, I suppose that would explain it. But naturally, it does get exhausting, especially when someone just bombards me with such strong emotions, particularly sadness or anything related to that.
Expect me to be extremely quiet and in dire need of recharge after that.

 

Fe only drains me when I use it around someone who totally ignores it. I need some kind of feedback and connection from it, otherwise I give off too much energy. Luckily I can usually spot it when someone won't respond to it.

 

what do you mean by "drains you"?

From my experience it only drains if:
- I try to influence people and they resist
- I'm in emotional down-wave myself

Concentrated bursts of Fe are recharging. Prolonged usage or contact with another INFJ can lead to overload

I learned to take just one problem at a time - that solves it. One act of kindness is not the solution to world's problems but it's better than nothing.