I know how i feel about teasing, now i'd like to know what others think about it.
Teasing is a word with many meanings. In human interactions, teasing comes in two major forms, playful and hurtful. When teasing is playful and friendly, and especially when it is reciprocal, teasing can be regarded as flirting. People may be teased on such matters as their appearance, weight, behavior, abilities, and clothing.[1] From the victim's point-of-view, this kind of teasing is often hurtful, irrespective of the intention of the teaser. When teasing is unwelcome, it may be regarded as harassment or mobbing, especially in the work place, or as a form of bullying or emotional abuse. If done in public, it may be regarded as humiliation. One may also tease an animal. Some animals, such as dogs and cats, may recognize this as play.
I'm confused right now . . . seriously?
i agree with jonathan, to me it feels as though 95% of teasing i encounter is a passive bullying technique, or some sort of social game that i must then figure out a reply to. usually i just bite my tongue until i can leave the situation.
I tease...I get teased...I take I give...
The facetiousness and sarcasm in this house could sink the largest ship in the US navy!
Same here. I tease people I care about all the time. If you didn't know my friends and I, you'd think we hate each other. We never miss a chance to knock on one another, but it's our way of showing that we care. We can be serious when need be. My family and I tease each other all the time. I tease my girlfriend almost religiously. I can't be too nice to her. If I find myself saying too many nice things in a row, I make sure to knock her down a few pegs, out of love of course. She never skips a beat. She teases me right back. If you didn't know us, you'd probably think we despise one another. "Fuck you" here "screw you there", "you suck at _____", "how could you say something so stupid?" It's all love, and it makes both of us laugh. I love teasing and being teased.I tease...I get teased...I take I give...
The facetiousness and sarcasm in this house could sink the largest ship in the US navy!
Same here. I tease people I care about all the time. If you didn't know my friends and I, you'd think we hate each other. We never miss a chance to knock on one another, but it's our way of showing that we care. We can be serious when need be. My family and I tease each other all the time. I tease my girlfriend almost religiously. I can't be too nice to her. If I find myself saying too many nice things in a row, I make sure to knock her down a few pegs, out of love of course. She never skips a beat. She teases me right back. If you didn't know us, you'd probably think we despise one another. "Fuck you" here "screw you there", "you suck at _____", "how could you say something so stupid?" It's all love, and it makes both of us laugh. I love teasing and being teased.
I don't usually tease people, and I generally dislike people teasing me. Around friends, I'll tolerate it and laugh through my discomfort so that our converstaion doesn't become awkward. I get very worried at family gatherings especially, because most of my family loves to tease me, and I have to spend some time trying to think of a response to whatever they say, which makes me blank out and get self-conscious. Also, they know a lot about me, so I find myself thinking "I hope they don't bring up..."
If someone draws attention to something that another person is clearly self-conscious about by teasing them, or if they tease me about my family or friends, I get angry and defensive, and will let the person know that what they said was completely out of line.
If someone teases my taste in music, art, clothing etc., I start to get embarassed or anxious and try to change the subject. Even if they don't mean any harm, and I realize that, I can't help but feel that they're attacking me personally because they're making light of things I find important to my identity.
I guess I don't tease people often because I'm always taking into account the environment, wondering how people will respond to what I say, and avoiding being offensive. If I do tease someone, it will probably be well thought out and timed. I've been told that I take myself too seriously because of this. Maybe I do.
i agree with jonathan, to me it feels as though 95% of teasing i encounter is a passive bullying technique, or some sort of social game that i must then figure out a reply to. usually i just bite my tongue until i can leave the situation.
Pointing out a flaw in another person or seeing another person do something clumsy or idiotic (as long as they aren't seriously injured) brings us happiness. Laughter seems very cruel in a way.
We all have flaws, so, of course, to a very rational person, teasing seems/is harmless. They aren't necessarily implying their own superiority when they tease. But some people are just too sensitive and conscientious to tease.
Same here. I tease people I care about all the time. If you didn't know my friends and I, you'd think we hate each other. We never miss a chance to knock on one another, but it's our way of showing that we care. We can be serious when need be. My family and I tease each other all the time. I tease my girlfriend almost religiously. I can't be too nice to her. If I find myself saying too many nice things in a row, I make sure to knock her down a few pegs, out of love of course. She never skips a beat. She teases me right back. If you didn't know us, you'd probably think we despise one another. "Fuck you" here "screw you there", "you suck at _____", "how could you say something so stupid?" It's all love, and it makes both of us laugh. I love teasing and being teased.
I don't usually tease people, and I generally dislike people teasing me. Around friends, I'll tolerate it and laugh through my discomfort so that our converstaion doesn't become awkward. I get very worried at family gatherings especially, because most of my family loves to tease me, and I have to spend some time trying to think of a response to whatever they say, which makes me blank out and get self-conscious. Also, they know a lot about me, so I find myself thinking "I hope they don't bring up..."
If someone draws attention to something that another person is clearly self-conscious about by teasing them, or if they tease me about my family or friends, I get angry and defensive, and will let the person know that what they said was completely out of line.
If someone teases my taste in music, art, clothing etc., I start to get embarassed or anxious and try to change the subject. Even if they don't mean any harm, and I realize that, I can't help but feel that they're attacking me personally because they're making light of things I find important to my identity.
I guess I don't tease people often because I'm always taking into account the environment, wondering how people will respond to what I say, and avoiding being offensive. If I do tease someone, it will probably be well thought out and timed. I've been told that I take myself too seriously because of this. Maybe I do.
i agree with jonathan, to me it feels as though 95% of teasing i encounter is a passive bullying technique, or some sort of social game that i must then figure out a reply to. usually i just bite my tongue until i can leave the situation.
Pointing out a flaw in another person or seeing another person do something clumsy or idiotic (as long as they aren't seriously injured) brings us happiness. Laughter seems very cruel in a way.
We all have flaws, so, of course, to a very rational person, teasing seems/is harmless. They aren't necessarily implying their own superiority when they tease. But some people are just too sensitive and conscientious to tease.
Same here. I tease people I care about all the time. If you didn't know my friends and I, you'd think we hate each other. We never miss a chance to knock on one another, but it's our way of showing that we care. We can be serious when need be. My family and I tease each other all the time. I tease my girlfriend almost religiously. I can't be too nice to her. If I find myself saying too many nice things in a row, I make sure to knock her down a few pegs, out of love of course. She never skips a beat. She teases me right back. If you didn't know us, you'd probably think we despise one another. "Fuck you" here "screw you there", "you suck at _____", "how could you say something so stupid?" It's all love, and it makes both of us laugh. I love teasing and being teased.
Oh I love the little whatev sayings we say when we cant keep up with the farce...
My fave is Eat a dick, or You suck at life...
we have tonz more but I cant think of them through the headache fog...
My favorite thing my boyfriend has ever said when he ran out of comebacks was, "You are a witch."
Just the way he said it, it killed me.
I'm pretty sure his neighbor's thought we hated each other, he'd be walking to the shower and we'd scream at each other through the door:
"Whore!"
"Bitch!"
etc. etc.