Well I've become chameleon-like. My NT side loves dark humor up the fucking wazzoo. My NF side is very sensitive and finds dark humor offensive. When I think about bad things happening to someone for real in an empathic way, it's just not funny at all.
For example my bratty little ENFP sister, big baby that she is, uses the term "rape" quite casually. I guess it's a high schooler thing, especially among the boys. At this family dinner she was talking about how her friend got "raped" on her interview. Not actually raped, but did poorly due to challenging questions. She kept using the term "rape" over and over. In retrospect I find that I actually never use this term casually, ever. I have too much compassion for the victims of this, so it's never funny, only offensive.
Suicide is another one. I do joke about this a lot. But I only do it towards people who understand the seriousness of the matter, and when actual suicide is implausible. I suggest to @
sandra_b all the time that she should hire someone to shoot her in the face. But if someone is actually suicidal, or upset about someone they know who is suicidal, I won't joke. I have observed some joking about it when it was serious. Some have the insensitivity to tell somebody to just go ahead and do it because they're tired of hearing about the gloom and doom. That just fucking pisses me off.
I think death is a common one to joke about. We all know that we are going to die, but nobody really believes it. We feel we'll live forever. "I would die for that", "oh I would just die". That shit is ok because nobody really wraps their head around the fact that they will actually die.
I actually don't react when I hear of great tragedies. I don't like to carry the emotional burden, so I keep my feelings very flat. I amaze myself even with how unreactive I can be. I do feel it though. Like a muffled scream, you know it's there but you try muffle it. Kinda like when you're wanking it and you don't want the person in the next room to know
Was that dark humor there?
