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Do INFJs stay single longer than other personality types?

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    Pin "Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart

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    I'm at a point where I'm personally pretty apathetic towards relationships. I want to become the best version of myself that I can be and a relationship is time-consuming. I go out sometimes, I meet women, they're often polite. However, money buys me food, drinks, watches, and movie tickets.

    I also want to advance professionally and a relationship would take time from me there as well. I could really get ahead in my career, become a boss or something, accomplish things that my teenage self would be proud of.

    Maybe love is going out of style. I mean haven't we seen it all before? Cliche?

    Haven't people had enough of silly love songs?
     
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    Ok...I'm still learning alot about it. What did you mean by dodged a bullet?? Lol
     
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    I've learned that #2 is very important to me. I practically embarrassed myself the other day at work, trying to train 2 people on something. I felt very awkward because there is no handbook to show them step by step. I've had to figure alot of shit out on my own, which I'm very good at. But when I have someone watching, I'm a complete fool...and it showed. Lol But at the end of the day, I knew I wasn't being fake.
     
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    I was a too blunt on the wording there, it was towards the reaction of that person just suddenly being gone.
     
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    Number three you had also in your first paragraph

    3. Not willing to "try" something that I already can foresee complications with

    I do a lot of that .. look at the future and foretell. Then comes the complication if you proceed and it does fail, was it because you were trying to manifest that future to be right or was it because you were right?!

    https://introvertdear.com/news/infj-single-reasons-why/

    The above pretty much says a lot as well :)

    Getting back on track, my ex took one month (to me that should be in exclamation marks) to find a new partner. I have been out of that same relationship close on two years.
     
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    It's called Peter Tingles now.
    Also, I really believe the misunderstoodness we suffer from is one of the biggest reasons we're so depressive, alongside what you're said.
     
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    Peter Parker?
     
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    Have you not seen the latest Spiderman? If not, I dno't wanna spoil this, even though it's not really much of a spoiler, but they haven't invented the term "Spidey Sense" yet in the current movies, so his Aunt May calls it Peter Tingles and of course it bothers Peter.
     
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    Lol, Peter Tingles. Haven't seen it yet, but can't wait to, honestly.
     
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    I am an INFJ. I have been dating for the past 2-3 years after leaving an abusive relationship. It took me a long time to find myself again but even now, still single. lol I find that I get bored of most people and don't fully open up my heart to them. Or they just don't share what I crave. I have been on probably 20-30 dates and dated a man for 4 months and another for one month during this time-frame. But I have also attracted a lot of men that only want the physical aspect and who didn't really want to know me. I've fallen for thinking sex means they care or will care for me but I also have my own inner demon. ;p

    I am done chasing for love now and I will always be open to possibilities. But I do enjoy being on my own at times, plus I love attention that being single gives more opportunities for. I also crave to be independent and do not like sharing things, so could never see myself as married or investing in a house with someone. I just prefer a different road. Plus my own unique tastes in a relationship may scare away many vanilla men or intimidate the insecure. I am sure it may also give them the impression that I am a doll to play with, hence the meaningless sex. Oh well, I am sure my time will come but I will try my best to enjoy being single, without getting myself in too much trouble.
     
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    I feel you mate. Really truly deeply.
     
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    Being single is not a disease to be gotten rid of. So what if others pair up? Good for them. Are you happy being single? Do you realize your life is better without a partner who abuses you or one who generally drives you crazy?

    Lots of people will judge you negatively for not pairing up, and you can't stop that. If you are an INFJ, you have to get used to it. It's the price of living among people who say they are your friends and mean well, but will push their own muddled agenda. agenda. Or people who judge others in order to feel better about themselves.

    Deep down INFJs hope for a partner or friend with whom they can share their unbridled selves. Because we notice so much, we have to decide what red flags are ones that cannot be ignored. It also takes time to smoke out the narcissists and other manipulators. I am the last person to give dating advice as it is a big turn-off to me. Such a situation is not the same for women so people are even more judgey.

    I look at it this way. No one else is living my life. I stand by my decisions. Negative comments from others are meaningless because they don't see the whole situation, all the pros and cons. No one situation is ever perfect. And if it ain't broke, don't expect it to be fixed.
     
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    Perhaps all infj smell a bit weird.
     
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    Love this comment .. well said :)
     
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    I don't understand all the criticism. From my (limited) experience with other INFJs, I find them to be the most patient type who puts up with a lot of shit and bad behaviour from others ( to a fault)
     
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    Yes. That is correct. They see the good and potential in people.
     
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    I can't speak for other INFJs even as being INFJ, but I can't settle just with anyone. We desire to connect very deeply with other people and we need intimate emotional and mental (also spiritual) connection with someone special. I don't date casually and I find today's dating world very uncomfortable and something just doesn't feel right with it (Tinder etc.) As an very independent and introverted person it's lovely to be single and spend quite some time alone. I've been single for 5 years now and I'm ok with it, especially when being childfree and not wanting to become a parent, ever. So it's not like I've to run against time because of biological reasons. Yes, there are strong feelings of loneliness sometimes and wishing I could share my life with someone special but there's no rush and it will be happen when the time is right.
     
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    and there is the real truth of it.
     
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