So, I've been doing the online dating thing. Rather casually, really, not in any kind of rush since I'm still adding depth to my life without adding a romantic partner to it. Anyway, there's something that's been bugging me, and it's been mentioned in other threads. Is it just intuitives that will know within the first 10-20 minutes how something with someone new will go?
And I don't even mean on a date in real life. I'll start talking to someone I've been emailing with on MSN, and I'll just know within the first 10 or 20 minutes if there's anything at all there. I try to push beyond my intuition - it has been known to be wrong on occasion - and give people more of a chance but time and time again my gut feeling winds up being vindicated and there's just nothing there.
In a way I find this incredibly irritating. I don't want to know up front how things are going to play out. I'd like some more mystery, I'd like to be able to waste at least a little time on someone, trying to figure out who they are and what makes them tick, before rejecting them. Now I'm spending time on people and I already know it's a waste, which makes the whole process very unenjoyable.
Not to mention every time it happens I feel like I'm a bitch who isn't giving these girls enough of a chance. Even though I probably am. Ugh. Anyone have experiences with this or thoughts on the matter?
And I don't even mean on a date in real life. I'll start talking to someone I've been emailing with on MSN, and I'll just know within the first 10 or 20 minutes if there's anything at all there. I try to push beyond my intuition - it has been known to be wrong on occasion - and give people more of a chance but time and time again my gut feeling winds up being vindicated and there's just nothing there.
In a way I find this incredibly irritating. I don't want to know up front how things are going to play out. I'd like some more mystery, I'd like to be able to waste at least a little time on someone, trying to figure out who they are and what makes them tick, before rejecting them. Now I'm spending time on people and I already know it's a waste, which makes the whole process very unenjoyable.
Not to mention every time it happens I feel like I'm a bitch who isn't giving these girls enough of a chance. Even though I probably am. Ugh. Anyone have experiences with this or thoughts on the matter?