There is a time and a place for bluntness... when someone's hurting, it's usually the right time to be empathetic to one's feelings and save the honest words coming from a place of caring, for later...
I usually know something for myself anyways, even when my friend offers their honest opinion. However, I am often times not looking for an opinion, I am looking for empathy. Just someone to tell me something like; "yea, that's tough I'm sure" or something to that effect.
To then have my friend dare me to tell them the truth about how I feel about their comment to me, seems to me as though they have missed something important entirely because I was being honest with them in the beginning when they asked me what was wrong...
if their response is logical yet void of compassion, I understand it is not because they do not care or love me, but it's simply not the kind of response I feel I need emotionally, even if it is correct... Always, I know the truth for myself, even if my friend tells me anyways. I just want support with my feelings, like some simple validation. Honesty is important yes, and I am always honest, even if others might not think so or think I am hiding things like my feelings/thoughts from them. Not so. Simply just trying to avoid anyone pain, and I weill continue to deal with my problems on my own, because usually, no one can offer me the words my emotions need to hear... I am a big girl and have survived this life so far, just that I am WAYYYY more sensitive than most people realize, and I don't want to cause them pain if they know they have upset me in any way.
