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Why it sucks to be an INFJ

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    I guess there’s always the odd biting fly in the forest but that’s all they are. I’m letting the wind clear me out right now, though I’ve only been walking through a small wood. The trail’s really manky and I’ve not got the right shoes on so I left it and went through the trees - a lot of my life’s been like that, and all the better for it :D

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    The gorse on the hills is already flowering :)

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    Anti-It Suxs medicine :D

     
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    They call me it at work and at home. Then I look at my actions and think aloud "no wonder".

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    16 planets!...16 planets!...there are not that many in our solar system I know. A journey of thought of 16 planets!

    Each planet has an orbit that is defined by its ingredients...a solid path that the universe accepts and really dictated. There is a center (a common source) that guides us. An energy that is immense, but not ever approachable...an unknown but it is there. There are distinctions between these planets and the paths are all different, but my goodness it takes everyone of them to obtain the equilibrium needed to move on in the celestial balance of life. One no better than the other, and each beautiful in their own way. We have all taken the shrapnel of the universe and all accepted it....my goodness it has further defined us. 16 planets and all in harmony...balance...despite their differences. A gaze to the sky and a warmth of understanding covers us.
     
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    My mind never shuts off

    I worry to much about what people think of me .. acceptance...

    Nothing is ever good enough. Always thinking of ways to do better..
     
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    It's hard to be in a group of people I don't know..

    I will overthink everything

    I don't live in the now.
     
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    A gazillion ideas racing through my brain. Sheer compulsions to randomly write stories and ideas and then read through three different books simultaneously. I can literally feel the energy between two people or a group. I can literally sense when there is about to be a physical fight or if people have those sorts of intentions. Deceit is pathetically obvious to see among people. Excessive talking and conversational noise is like being in stormy seas. I just want people to shut up and stop talking. Others emotions can wash over me like a wave. Sometimes uncontrollably if I'm not careful. (I've gotten better at controlling this as I've gotten older.) It's like being a Betazoid (Star Trek for those in the know) and not knowing how to control it. It's not as bad now though as I've come to find with age I understand more and have more control. I understand things about myself that mom and dad couldn't explain. Things that I understand now that other people go through. That I'm not alone and many feel similar to me. That I'm ok.
     
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    I actually really relate to this. Did you used to confuse those emotions for your own? Or you'd pick up on it, not really know the source but internalize it to try to make it your own just to make sense of it? You might be interested in this thread.

    And welcome!
     
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    Having a better idea of why people do not like aspects of me I cannot change was actually helpful even if it changes virtually nothing - with the exception of learning how to deal with it. I can understand why, and it makes sense. Better to be independent than constant whoring for other people's attention and approval.
     
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    Why does it suck to be a supposedly common type?
    1) People subconsciously believe you don't deserve as much, at least in online communities, because you are understood or accepted in real life, compared to mysterious INFJs that are unique and special and broken.
    2) People think they understand you. But the most common types are the most misunderstood. What do you know of ESTJs through type descriptions, as compared to INFJs? When you search threads, posts related to ESTJs, how many of them come up, as compared to an INFJ's? Think there's nothing much to an ESTJ, it's too simple. Well, you may be right, but has anyone thoroughly looked through and analysed their thought processes? Is an ESFP vain? I certainly don't think so. They know a lot.
    3) Being human sucks. Circumstances sucks. How you deal with it sucks. Because some other supposedly common type deals with it seemingly effectively, it doesn't suck. Or because they brought it upon themselves, instead of being natural empaths.
    4) No one's interested lol. You're just an ordinary human lol. ISTJ forum, anyone? Nah, hell nah. They are boring. Too boring. Go back to your office, ISTJ.
     
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    I find that I actually really enjoy sensing types. Some of my favorite people are ESFJ, ESTP and ISTJ (I asked them to take a test online that's how I know their types). Not boring at all. But people do tend to focus on themselves and I also think most people are shit at typing others.
     
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    Which test?
     
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    I meant I've asked them to take the mbti online.
     
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    Yes, which test did you ask them to take? Some tests have a high mistyping rate, although I don't doubt your relationship with them.
     
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    I don't remember. I think that the first time you take the test, the most likely you receive an accurate result as there is no bias for a particular type (my friends had never heard of mbti before). And they agreed with their result.
     
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    I think the average person has no idea about the MBTI. . it amazes me that even in the therapeutic(mental health professionals) community, very few actually know their type. .
     
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    I suspect the truth is that most types have a heathy disinterest in over analysing themselves lol. The reason there's so much psychoblather about INFJs is that we wallow in it, so the web sites get loads of attention, and that draws in some other types as well out of curiosity - it's like going to the zoo maybe ;). I guess the apparent scarcity of INFJs is another factor - whether the figures are accurate I don't know, but only once or twice in my life have I met a real life INFJ person, and I'm 70. It's a rather special experience coming onto a forum like this and finding that there are others with a similar way of relating to the world. In most social settings, we are having to work hard to fit in, while the others there are in their native element.

    Very much agree. A lot of the guys I met working for the British Antarctic Survey were ISTPs and they were really good, easy company, gifted practically and extremely adaptable to unexpected situations.
     
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