Why I wish I was an INTJ and highly admire them.

When my cousin came out to visit suddenly everything clicked.

I'd been obsessing over how he could be so solitary, so analytical, and so disinterested in social conversations that asked 'how was your day' in the most general sense to get a feel of the other person's day. He was completely oblivious to these questions and refused to answer them at times. He spends most of his time reading about topics that interest him, mostly Science things, and when asked his opinions of things it appears he filters it very naturally though the logistics of things.

I'm not capable to do that at all. I lose my concentration while reading things and am not able to go with the 'learn everything you can' attitude and enjoy the actual learning.

I rely a lot on social interaction- the point he isolates himself, he doesn't talk to anyone but his parents and siblings. That would drive me nutters.

Sure, there is a variety of INTJs. I have a female cousin INTJ who is a lot more socialized and able to talk about her day and have opinions that aren't filtered by raw logic, but she is still an INTJ.

She loves absorbing information and is a stickler for the details. I don't even know how many books she reads per week. Her interest in Science is as great as my other cousin's and talking to both is wonderful because they are so concise in their opinions, so well read and research driven. They don't have a 'feeling' that something is this way or that way- if they don't know, they say they don't know.

I also noticed a trait that may not be true for all of them, but my cousin in particular and some that I have conversed with online seem to have the trait to be uninterested in social games, and social things at all. They are polite [to an extent] and do not really ever put specific judgements on other based or base theories around other people- they leave that purely for theoreticals and rarely if at all have opinions on other people. Sometimes they will refuse to respond.

I also like the fact that they keep to themselves and don't have to be around other people. INTJs have a certain factor to themselves that they can withdraw inside of their shell and 'live in their own world' meaning that essentially their thoughts are always floating around in their head and they can go days and even weeks without talking to people as long as they have a book or new information to process.



I lack all of these abilities naturally and am inclined to be drawn towards them. For brief periods of times I am able to present myself in a way that an INTJ is, but I cannot sustain it, and I wish I could.

All hail the majestic INTJ!

(Oh, and ENTJs aren't half bad either. I haven't talked to them often enough though).

 

Yes, I know several INTPs.

 

I like the way they communicate VS. big feeling types like infps because it seems like INTJs, if you ask them a specific question, you get a specific answer. If you ask an INFP a specific question you get a generality about feelings that have no factual data bank to support these theories- they're just theories, or hunches, and people are supposed to believe they have some sort of weight. INTJs usually will only express an opinion that they've researched- if they know nothing about something typically they'll admit it and won't even attempt a guess due to the lack of information.

 

I do like INTPs and one of my cousins is an INTP, she acts considerably different than the two INTJs I am describing. Also, I had an INTP friend who I'm no longer friends with, and he did act similar to the description above, I will admit. I don't know the main differences between INTJ or INTP but I like both of them, though a preference goes out to the J functions of an INTJ.

 

General topics would come up where you'd ask "What did you think of that film and what they were saying?" (we all went to sundance together). One of the films was a political conspiracy film and when we asked the INTJ what he thought of the film he said that it was lacking evidence and didn't give any information to support what it was claiming.

When we tried to motion to ask him what he thought of what they had been saying he stated he didn't know because he had no information about politics or history because he has found them to be so multi-faceted that it's impossible to know the entire factual details unless you go into intensive research upon specific subjects, which he wasn't particularly interested in to begin with.

So basically he concluded since he knew nothing about history or politics and the information supplied wasn't concrete, he couldn't form a valid opinion, even about what the nonfactual content of the film had been because if there were no facts to bank upon there was no point to discussing it.

 

Well, that may be true, but it's easier for me to use the title INTJs than 'specific people with the following traits'.

 

I like the lack of a feeling side, it's odd since we use feelings in every day communication but I find conversing with them in much more informative than on norm with someone who's conversation is feeling 'mood' driven.