but so much more effort seems to go into the different parts of a lifelong partnership.. and we have multiple friends (most people) vs. 1 long-term partner (most people)..
A lot of effort goes into a lifelong relationship. But you don't know how long you'll be together at the start.
I'm too intense. My workouts are intense. My degrees are intense. My focus is intense. My work is intense.
So how could I be with anyone and not be intense. If you aren't intense in some way, if you don't stand for something, if you haven't achieved really hard goals, if you don't have passion, you are useless to me.
So I have my entire life had all these people around me. Hundreds of Facebook connections. I don't know any of them. Not interested in them. The ones I think of as friends are dead.
Longterm relationship. Well I'm with her 23 years. Met her she was 21. Me just turned 24.
No kids. Don't like them. Don't want them. And probably can't have them cause we are careful, but I would think we'd have screwed up at least once. But I know she doesn't want to get pregnant, and I'm only so familiar with her cycle. So she manages that for us I guess now that I think about it.
I guess if she got pregnant that would really fuck things up. I can't see us aborting. But I can't see us as parents.
Maybe now we could since money and most others things aren't issues.
But we are both from broken homes.
And I have a rich dad, poor mom.
Funny my mom gifts me and has nothing. My dad is pretty useless. I don't like him for who he is. So I hope he dies peacefully and is ok if I don't show up.
Her dad split when she was 10. But her bother and all her cousins that grew up around her took care of her.
So far not much to do with answering your question. But you can't have what I have after only a few years.
You learn each others thoughts.
You learn each others next move
You sort of complete each other.
I trust her
I don't trust anyone
I love her.
I would die protecting her.
She doesn't ask me to. But I know she feels safe because I'm there.
I could spend hours on this.
I feel sorry you have to ask.
I think most people have no shot at finding it. But I think it's cause you're all too selfish.
I wake up and my first thoughts are checking the house and making sure everything is ok.
I run to the list of chores before she gets a chance. I get home. Love to cook and am awesome at it. Love to surprise her when she gets home.
I come home and she's bought me something she thinks ill look good in.
I'm with her 10 years when she decided to become a veterinarian. Lot of work.
Lot of stories we share. Lot to look back on.
Sex. Wow. It would take years to get where we are. No inhibitions, no rules, I know her. Always trying to find new ways. But we worked for it. I have the money to eat, travel, do the thing we dream of. But we started with little. We built this together.
So for me there is no other way. And when she is gone and left me here, I'll probably stay by myself since anything else would be so unfulfilling. There is no repeat for me. I don't have the energy to learn someone else. And I'm sure I won't find someone I find interesting or worth it. So i'll die alone. I will die after her. No fucking way I'm leaving her here with you assholes.
And if I die first you better hope there isn't away for me to get at you.
So in my opinion your life is empty if you don't try. She's just a friend. Just happens to be a best friend at everything. But I think you need to find someone that makes your heart stop a little and then work at being the best person you can.
Just my thought. I can never be good enough for her. Don't get me wrong. We argue too. Just start laughing before long. Just love her too much to keep the argument going. Not like she means to piss me off. I'm an idiot a lot, but try to make up for it.
She never asks anything from me. If she did I probably would have lost interest along time ago. Because she doesn't demand anything I spend my days trying.
I think if its about you. Then that's what you get. You. And a lot if passers by, and then you're alone again. Maybe that's enough for a lot of people. I hope so cause the sorry lot of the most of you I see out there everyday don't deserve to affect other people. But that's just the way I see them. I'm sure they are very nice. I guess that's my FE coming out.
Maybe said differently you get what you put in. If you're lazy, then don't expect much.
But for me it's the most intense thing that's happened. For a really intense guy. And I know I'll die as intensely as I lived. But that what I want. I lost interest in new faces a long time ago. There aren't that many pretty ones , or interesting ones. Once in a while I meet someone that seems to have something new. I sometime wonder how it will go. Don't really try to make it happen. It will if its supposed to. But the new friends that seem to show up are just repeats and who wants to do that again. Once is enough. And the 3 real friends I had are dead. And so far people I meet are just coffee conversations and I'm bored. But
I'm not lonely so not looking I guess either. But if I do make another friend, I will go about it like we are friends for life.