I've been with my wife 16 years(married 8) and we haven't been bored of each other yet Okay, somwtimes, lol. Today we went out of town together to go eat and shop, and we both found something out about each other that we didn't know before. I love the depth we can still share.
Also, our personalities are quite different, I think she's ISFJ, and I think she finds me to be quite an enigma, lol. But, the attraction is still there so we must be doing something right It definitely becomes less about sex and more about kids and family. You know you're starting to get old when you say "not tonight, I'm too tired," and you really are just too damn tired
the same thing long term friend ships are for but sometimes more sex.
Kids are the only reason I can see why someone would be with someone longer than 10 years. In fact, I would suggest having kids early in the relationship and not later when you're starting to hate them. LOL> I would have much rather started my family with J when things were fresh and the love was strong instead of waiting forever and then have one when the marriage wasn't as strong as it was. Stupid!
Can you elaborate on this, Cindy?
I think it can only work long term if it's an open relationship. Otherwise it's like being forced to eat only crackers for the rest of one's life.
So you become distracted by kids and responsibilities?
What if you didn't have kids?
Those are just irrelevant details. People like to get to know one another and that doesn't work in short term only scenarios.but so much more effort seems to go into the different parts of a lifelong partnership.. and we have multiple friends (most people) vs. 1 long-term partner (most people)..
Familiarity isn't supposed to be exciting, it's supposed to be comforting and secure.