I know this INFJ girl, the daughter of a neighbor. Our parents are friends, and recently - maybe at the behest of her mother - she called me up to go to the gym with her. Keep in mind I live in Hong Kong - Asian parents do have more influence over their children than American parents.
The first time we went together, I felt great. I've always been a shy guy, and an anxious guy, but I've been practicing some of the strategies I learnt from a counselor at my university. That day I was calm, relaxed, and it went well. In fact, I don't know if I ever felt so comfortable with another person. It was just a great introverted hang out. We would be on treadmills next to each other, and we would be quiet for a while, then we'll say something, talk a little, go back to working quietly. Afterwards, she told me to call her if I wanted to do anything together.
From then on, she texted or called me once everyday, asking after me. Like 'hey, did you pass your driving exam?" etc.
So I texted her back, about going to the gym a second time. She accepted, but it just so happens on that day, I wasn't feeling good. I had had a stressful week, and I was kind of burnt out on people. But a commitment is a commitment lol, or so I told myself. So we went, but it was kind of awkward. There was a random guy there grunting and making a lot of noise, and I just withdrew into my shell. I've run into him before, and never really cared that much. But I was feeling so withdrawn and sensitive to begin with, that it made me withdraw further lol. It sounds so silly. Afterwards, she told me "You're really quiet." She also said, "I hope you don't mind me saying, but you need to stand up straighter." lol and she touched my back, and kind of helped me get my back up.
I just wanted to know what she thinks of me now? Does she think I'm a weird, withdrawn loser? From my experience with INxJs (INTJ roommate, INFJ friend) they don't miss much lol. Does she now think of me as an easily intimidated, fearful coward? I typically don't care that much, but she is the first person I felt so at ease talking with. I really don't want to lose her as a friend lol.
The first time we went together, I felt great. I've always been a shy guy, and an anxious guy, but I've been practicing some of the strategies I learnt from a counselor at my university. That day I was calm, relaxed, and it went well. In fact, I don't know if I ever felt so comfortable with another person. It was just a great introverted hang out. We would be on treadmills next to each other, and we would be quiet for a while, then we'll say something, talk a little, go back to working quietly. Afterwards, she told me to call her if I wanted to do anything together.
From then on, she texted or called me once everyday, asking after me. Like 'hey, did you pass your driving exam?" etc.
So I texted her back, about going to the gym a second time. She accepted, but it just so happens on that day, I wasn't feeling good. I had had a stressful week, and I was kind of burnt out on people. But a commitment is a commitment lol, or so I told myself. So we went, but it was kind of awkward. There was a random guy there grunting and making a lot of noise, and I just withdrew into my shell. I've run into him before, and never really cared that much. But I was feeling so withdrawn and sensitive to begin with, that it made me withdraw further lol. It sounds so silly. Afterwards, she told me "You're really quiet." She also said, "I hope you don't mind me saying, but you need to stand up straighter." lol and she touched my back, and kind of helped me get my back up.
I just wanted to know what she thinks of me now? Does she think I'm a weird, withdrawn loser? From my experience with INxJs (INTJ roommate, INFJ friend) they don't miss much lol. Does she now think of me as an easily intimidated, fearful coward? I typically don't care that much, but she is the first person I felt so at ease talking with. I really don't want to lose her as a friend lol.