What does she think of me?

Nah, I think she was just being understanding and could tell you were pretty worn down. As you said INxJs don't really miss much. Just relax and keep at it, it's nice to find people you are so at ease with. If a problem doesn't exist, withdrawing yourself will probably create a problem.

 

Firstly, I don't think anyone would judge anyone that harshly for having a down day. Would you walk around and mentally call people out on their insecurities? I bet you wouldn't. You might notice a few things, but I doubt that you'd call them a coward. I think its silly that people expect the rest of the populace to be so cruel. Typically, most people are too worried about how they appear to worry about you.

You're really being harsh on yourself. Just because you're quiet and withdrawn doesn't make you a "loser" and especially not "weird." There's millions of people in the world who are shy and quiet, yet still loved and appreciated for who they are; variety is the spice of life. Not everyone is going to be a bombastic, chatty, centre of attention. I think your own interpretations of your own behavior is skewed rather negatively.

And besides, this girl is an INFJ. She's more likely to be understanding than judgmental. She seems to like you well enough to be inviting you to spend some time with her consistently. And none of her comments are abrasive; they're just calm observations.

I can't read another person's mind, nor can I tell you with any sort of certainty what she really thinks of you, but my hunch is that she at least enjoys your company.

On the flip side, consider the possibility of spending so much time focusing so much on yourself, withdrawing and being so preoccupied with appearing a certain way, that you might be holding back on her and she might be worried about what you think of her.

Relax, and get to know her a little better. Ask her out beyond the gym. Go for a coffee or tea. I can bet you don't have as much to worry about as you think you do.

Cheers, dear.

 

I really don't think you did much to make her think any less of you. I have times where I'm supposed to hang out with someone but I feel crap. Of course I feel guilty for being like that around this person because they deserve to have better then that. It's just the ebb and flow. But, like others said, she's probably very understanding.

 

If this girl is an INFJ then this is all you really need to know to answer that question, and the answer is probably yes. I don't think INFJs are known for disliking people for having bad days, they're more likely to feel bad for not being able to help more or if emotionally involved (which clouds intuition) start wondering if it was something they did.

Of course, this is all generalized stereotypical INFJ behaviour because I don't know the girl in question.

 

You really like her, don't you It's nice that you really care about what she thinks but I think you're caring too much. From what I've read she seems like a nice girl so I wouldn't worry, I'm sure she doesn't think that of you are a weird, withdrawn loser at all. If she didn't like the fact that you are shy she wouldn't be you friend, would she? INFJs are usually understanding so she won't judge you too harshly It's more than likely she was worried about you being so quiet and wanted to make you feel better.

 

Obviously, in her own little way, she likes you. As a friend, as a potential date. Whatever. She's trying to mentor you into being cool and couth. Question is, do you want to be mentored?

 

That's a good sign. I think she's taking the initiative to get to know you better. I wouldn't worry about. It would be silly to think that one small even would get you black listed just like that. I would just keep doing what your doing and have little confidence.

 

Your english is great first of all.

I don't think she would. Maybe she thinks something is wrong. If she said it in a joking way, then she likes you I'm pretty sure.

 

I'm pretty sure she likes you.

When I ask questions like that out of the blue...yeah. And INFJs tend to make lots of comments like that but they are more just to be observations not to be harsh comments expressing disdain of you.