knight in battle
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- MBTI
- INFJ
I've always thought that chance or destiny inevitably brought me to become house-mates with a ISTJ (and a couple others, whose types may be ISTP and ISFP). The reason why I became roommates with him was pretty obviously because he seemed like a trustworthy kind of person. He doesn't invite random people over to the house - in fact, he doesn't invite anyone. So far so good. Little did I know that he was such a critical/rude person; he'd literally ask me how I'm doing and do a little friendly small talk; and turn right around with an unsmiling face to critique how I've handled something in the kitchen. Then he'd go back to being the shy and unsociable guy that he is - swinging back and forth between the confident "I'm in charge of this house and am the most responsible/respectable person I know" and the "Oh, gosh, I'd better tread lightly and not disturb my roommates or make any sounds or risk socializing very much" person.
Do I care that he's reclusive? No.
Do I mind that he prefers privacy? No.
Do I mind that he is tradition minded and narrow? No.
Do I appreciate that he's a clean, responsible, and quiet person? Yes.
Are we both left-brain dominant? Yes.
So what is it that he wants? What do ISTJs want from me? And why does he keep hovering around me, when I clearly find him harsh and uninteresting to be around, and we don't communicate on the same wavelength (him insisting on traditional social values + almost absolute routine consistency compared to my changeable framework albeit usually routine life)?
(Worlds apart from my ESTJ friend, who is actually quite friendly.)
Do I care that he's reclusive? No.
Do I mind that he prefers privacy? No.
Do I mind that he is tradition minded and narrow? No.
Do I appreciate that he's a clean, responsible, and quiet person? Yes.
Are we both left-brain dominant? Yes.
So what is it that he wants? What do ISTJs want from me? And why does he keep hovering around me, when I clearly find him harsh and uninteresting to be around, and we don't communicate on the same wavelength (him insisting on traditional social values + almost absolute routine consistency compared to my changeable framework albeit usually routine life)?
(Worlds apart from my ESTJ friend, who is actually quite friendly.)
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