First off I have to apologise for my inactivity(mostly been reduced to surfing a few pages now and then)!!
At the point where I am rather tempted to do the most extreme of moves an INFJ can carry out, a "doorslam".
Some of you have comes across my story from a year back. Had a girl, we flirted around (she had a boyfriend then), she broke up with him.
Fine, so I thought we should make things serious, asked her out *was told no, one of those "tests" I presume*. Comes along a few weeks later, starts flirting around with me and we had a few late night chats lasting hours. We weren't friends as per say.
Asked her out, was told no again and that she had no feelings for me. I got angry (which is where I went all wrong), all the flirting was on her initiation and demanded an explanation. Had an argument over christmas. Went back to school and a few weeks went by (I did terrible during the exams as I was depressed over this). Decided we had to have a chat (had one after school in which it broke down into an argument, got told by the teachers (we were caught) that it was best not to contact each other on facebook. Was forced to block her on facebook.
A few months went by, I really did not feel too good that things were in limbo, contacted her via school email to be at the very least be on talking terms to each other. No replies and was subsequently reported to a member of staff for inappropriate emails (asking someone to be friends again is not something I would define as inappropriate).
She's graduating in a few months. She still has me blocked on fb and tries to ignore me at school (though this has diminished). One wonders why she keeps looking at me for long periods of time from time to time. Talked to her friends, utterly same reasoning as what my schoolmate told me during our argument (I never liked you). This left me utterly confused and quite possibly depressed (I may be right now).
Was I "played" as some of you would call it?. Is it normal for a girl to actively flirt on their own accord with someone they actually not like?. Maybe I was too hard and serious in approaching her and she got alittle scared/put-off. And now she keeps on talking about one of my friends (rather close) and about how good he is right within my earshot. I need a neutral perspective on this! Maybe it is one of those life lessons I have to learn. I still have feelings for her but I feel so bitter she is treating me in such a manner. I don't really know she gets how hurt I felt. What hurts more is that she could have been a great friend (we share quite a number of common interests).
p.s. I definitely need a new username.....
At the point where I am rather tempted to do the most extreme of moves an INFJ can carry out, a "doorslam".
Some of you have comes across my story from a year back. Had a girl, we flirted around (she had a boyfriend then), she broke up with him.
Fine, so I thought we should make things serious, asked her out *was told no, one of those "tests" I presume*. Comes along a few weeks later, starts flirting around with me and we had a few late night chats lasting hours. We weren't friends as per say.
Asked her out, was told no again and that she had no feelings for me. I got angry (which is where I went all wrong), all the flirting was on her initiation and demanded an explanation. Had an argument over christmas. Went back to school and a few weeks went by (I did terrible during the exams as I was depressed over this). Decided we had to have a chat (had one after school in which it broke down into an argument, got told by the teachers (we were caught) that it was best not to contact each other on facebook. Was forced to block her on facebook.
A few months went by, I really did not feel too good that things were in limbo, contacted her via school email to be at the very least be on talking terms to each other. No replies and was subsequently reported to a member of staff for inappropriate emails (asking someone to be friends again is not something I would define as inappropriate).
She's graduating in a few months. She still has me blocked on fb and tries to ignore me at school (though this has diminished). One wonders why she keeps looking at me for long periods of time from time to time. Talked to her friends, utterly same reasoning as what my schoolmate told me during our argument (I never liked you). This left me utterly confused and quite possibly depressed (I may be right now).
Was I "played" as some of you would call it?. Is it normal for a girl to actively flirt on their own accord with someone they actually not like?. Maybe I was too hard and serious in approaching her and she got alittle scared/put-off. And now she keeps on talking about one of my friends (rather close) and about how good he is right within my earshot. I need a neutral perspective on this! Maybe it is one of those life lessons I have to learn. I still have feelings for her but I feel so bitter she is treating me in such a manner. I don't really know she gets how hurt I felt. What hurts more is that she could have been a great friend (we share quite a number of common interests).
p.s. I definitely need a new username.....