Hi thanks for letting me post here I just am confused and wanted to see if I could get some help from you guys. I am INTP and recently I met an INFJ and started dating. (This was before I knew about MBTI.) We were both pretty much amazed with each other right form the start. We were both highly imaginitive, somewhat antisocial, really goofy sense of humor and both terribly akward in pretty much every area of life. I think the fact we were both introverted inutitive was the main factor. Anyway, I really liked her becuase she was intellectual and I could talk to her about things that interested me. She liked me becuase I was thoughtful but also becuase she would always talk about how I had integrity and she would mention examples of other people she saw through the week who were "compromising" so to speak and how much she appreciated I did not do that. (I did not understand the big deal with this until I read the Idealist description in Kearsey.."authenticty" factor). Anyway we talked all the time, we laughed a lot, were were great friends. I mean we really enjoyed just hanging out, but then one fateful night......
I got mad at her.
Okay I am INTP, I like things to make sense. I was pretty sure she was not making sense, so I told her. And I guess I was sorta mad. I tend to be arumentative. I wasn't being mean, but I am pretty confrontational, and I confronted her. I sent her a note to do this. She didn't respond so I sent another one, she responded but I felt like she was making excuses so I sent her another one telling her not to make excuses (turns out she wasn't and it was all in my imagination, I felt like an idiot).
SHE DID NOT APPRECIATE THIS. She told me we needed a break (crying) and we stopped talking.
We have not picked it up to this day (but we are still friends).
Man what is the deal?! It's hard not to feel like she never really cared about me in the first place if she could bail out that fast!
I'm just a stupid INTP! I don't mean any harm!
My question I guess is should I still pursue her after a bit of time or just let it go. Would she come back or was that pretty much it?
Thanksssss
I got mad at her.
Okay I am INTP, I like things to make sense. I was pretty sure she was not making sense, so I told her. And I guess I was sorta mad. I tend to be arumentative. I wasn't being mean, but I am pretty confrontational, and I confronted her. I sent her a note to do this. She didn't respond so I sent another one, she responded but I felt like she was making excuses so I sent her another one telling her not to make excuses (turns out she wasn't and it was all in my imagination, I felt like an idiot).
SHE DID NOT APPRECIATE THIS. She told me we needed a break (crying) and we stopped talking.
We have not picked it up to this day (but we are still friends).
Man what is the deal?! It's hard not to feel like she never really cared about me in the first place if she could bail out that fast!
I'm just a stupid INTP! I don't mean any harm!
My question I guess is should I still pursue her after a bit of time or just let it go. Would she come back or was that pretty much it?
Thanksssss