What you could do is talk and do but don't put your whole heart, soul and being into it. Of course, that's easier said than done but after getting burnt by so many people I've learned how.
I now approach cautiously, don't give them a mile when they've done nothing to deserve more than an inch, and am wary. I analyze interactions with new people for warning signs, whether it be signs that they may be malicious with ill intentions or simply defective in some way that'll hurt me if I give them my trust.
And once I'm satisfied enough time has gone by that if they were bad for me their true colours would have shown, then I can start actually trusting them. The best thing is that the people I do this with never seem to twig on what's going on inside my head (not like anyone ever does anyway) so they're never offended.
Haven't gotten hurt nearly as much since. You need to take the necessary precautions to guard yourself from predators, because nobody else will.
I now approach cautiously, don't give them a mile when they've done nothing to deserve more than an inch, and am wary. I analyze interactions with new people for warning signs, whether it be signs that they may be malicious with ill intentions or simply defective in some way that'll hurt me if I give them my trust.
And once I'm satisfied enough time has gone by that if they were bad for me their true colours would have shown, then I can start actually trusting them. The best thing is that the people I do this with never seem to twig on what's going on inside my head (not like anyone ever does anyway) so they're never offended.
Haven't gotten hurt nearly as much since. You need to take the necessary precautions to guard yourself from predators, because nobody else will.