Socializing
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Why do you socialize?
Usually 'coz I have to.. for cultural reasons. We need to mingle and to have a get together many times a year for family events and even with friends. You can't say "no" a lot.
What do you get out of socializing?
If its with my favorite people.. beautiful memories. New experiences as well coz I want my life to be meaningful so it demands a bit of getting out and facing people. Although I need to retreat or withdraw for days coz I need to re-energize in order "to face the world" again.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much.. but if its with my close friends.. 4 days straight still might be a good idea. I really love having them around. I am being in my true self with them. Once a month or every two weeks is enough for me.. just with my favorite people!
Usually 'coz I have to.. for cultural reasons. We need to mingle and to have a get together many times a year for family events and even with friends. You can't say "no" a lot.
What do you get out of socializing?
If its with my favorite people.. beautiful memories. New experiences as well coz I want my life to be meaningful so it demands a bit of getting out and facing people. Although I need to retreat or withdraw for days coz I need to re-energize in order "to face the world" again.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much.. but if its with my close friends.. 4 days straight still might be a good idea. I really love having them around. I am being in my true self with them. Once a month or every two weeks is enough for me.. just with my favorite people!
i love hearing what people have to say, they are so funny and insightful. i can be very arrogant at times and it brings me back to earth to listen to others. i also enjoy complaining about my life to sympathetic others as being listened to gives me a sense of validation. i also have feelings of "love" or "affection" towards others that cause me to care about them. im not sure of how much i need to do it. maybe once a week is enough, but i do socialise on here a lot. i love to be alone though. i cant really stand socialising in groups of people, it is a huge chore and makes me feel like im suffocating. its ok if ive known them for a long time though.
Because i get lonely.
Sometimes i get compliments which is nice, but usually an anxiety attack.
This depends. I could go out every weekend for a month if all I'm doing is socializing, but if I'm engaged like once every 6 months.
I went to a local music festival today, talked to 1 person. Left immediately after, the mile walk in 90 degree weather helped relax me
Sometimes i get compliments which is nice, but usually an anxiety attack.
This depends. I could go out every weekend for a month if all I'm doing is socializing, but if I'm engaged like once every 6 months.
I went to a local music festival today, talked to 1 person. Left immediately after, the mile walk in 90 degree weather helped relax me
Why do you socialize?
Get lonely. I do like being alone, but not alone. I prefer to socialize with a select small set of people.
What do you get out of socializing?
Connections with other people. Its a very warming feeling.
How much do you need to socialize?
I can go months if I don't make an effort, so I make it a point to try and socialize. Lunch with friend, co-worker after work, etc. There was a point in my life I was working 7pm to 7am overnight shifts alone, I had gone more then a month never actually interacting with a person or speaking with them and it didn't particularly affect me negatively beyond feeling a bit empty.
Get lonely. I do like being alone, but not alone. I prefer to socialize with a select small set of people.
What do you get out of socializing?
Connections with other people. Its a very warming feeling.
How much do you need to socialize?
I can go months if I don't make an effort, so I make it a point to try and socialize. Lunch with friend, co-worker after work, etc. There was a point in my life I was working 7pm to 7am overnight shifts alone, I had gone more then a month never actually interacting with a person or speaking with them and it didn't particularly affect me negatively beyond feeling a bit empty.
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Because i see all kinds of people all day at work, i don't need a lot of socializing outside of that. I do like to go out a few times a month, just for the attention lol
I seem to socialize only when I am participating in an activity with other people who share the same passion for the activity. I get to meet many people with varying backgrounds so I get my fill of socializing. Outside of these groups I don't make attempt to socialize unless it is a work or business event.
Why do you socialize?
To feel more whole as a person. I would have to give it more thought though to be able to explain in detail.
What do you get out of socializing?
I don't seek out any one particular thing, but in general I'd say it energizes me.
How much do you need to socialize?
I think I can manage with less than most people, but it doesn't make me happy.
I think that if I wasn't able to connect with people, even if just in those small moments, there wouldn't be much point to anything.
edit: I take that back. I would still want to be able to help people.
To feel more whole as a person. I would have to give it more thought though to be able to explain in detail.
What do you get out of socializing?
I don't seek out any one particular thing, but in general I'd say it energizes me.
How much do you need to socialize?
I think I can manage with less than most people, but it doesn't make me happy.
I think that if I wasn't able to connect with people, even if just in those small moments, there wouldn't be much point to anything.
edit: I take that back. I would still want to be able to help people.
Well... my first thought was that I socialize because I exist. For me, it's a core aspect of my being.
I socialize, like others said, for human interaction, to make connections, to grow together as human beings.
I need some time inbetween, just to recharge and process the interactions; but interactions can be stimulating, too, and leave me abuzz.
I love meeting and getting to know people, their intricacies and idiosyncrasies. I love to listen and to absorb (sometimes I can be too much of a sponge, but that's another matter altogether).
There would be so much I wouldn't know, so much gone unseen, if not for socializing. There are over seven billion people alive, roaming and wandering the Earth right now.
That's amazing. And we are all in this together. We exist as a whole, one unit, and there are certainly units within units, but ultimately we are one. A growing, thriving, pulsating organism called humanity.
I socialize because I love this. Because I can delve into my own mind whenever I want; it's a constant presence. I enjoy introspection, but it's always there. What's not there, if I don't get out, are all the wonders and opportunities made possible by socializing.
I recognize that it won't all be great. I can end up, after socializing, feeling anything but good and hopeful about humanity, lol
But there's plenty of good to keep me coming back. We are flawed, wonderful creatures, and I enjoy exploring all of that.
Well, it's a need and just an honest desire to do so.
Often, I would say.
Attention. Making up for time that I didn't get growing up.
Never as much as I would like. If I'm not getting padded on the back for what I'm saying, I get sad. If people lavish me with praise, I get uncomfortable. If I don't socialize, I get depressed. It's not all bad, though. My best friends always make laugh and make me feel validated.
It depends on how stressed out I am. If I get stressed, I need to let steam out to someone, anyone. If I'm content, I can go for days, week without social interaction. I prefer being stressed out to being alone, though.
I socialize because I love people.
I receive all sorts of gifts by being with people:
- the energy of love
-validation of who I am if they are receptive to the truth of me
-they sometimes trigger hidden aspects of my self so I can see them
- hugs....lots and lots of hugs
- its fun to play with people
-they give me new ideas and ways of being
-they're a mirror to me and show me more aspects of my self to love
-I'm a systems theory person and being with people helps me to understand the system more.
I don't need to socialize much at all anymore. As they say about INFJs...we have a rich inner world.
Why do you socialize?
Sometimes I have to, for work or family stuff. But why do I engage socially when I want to? Because I want to connect with people, truly. Because even though I'm a total introvert I still need people. I love people, even when I hate them, and even when I want to hide away in my hermit hole.
What do you get out of socializing?
Choosing to interact socially is much different for me, because I can also choose who I interact with. And it's usually with people who can bring out the best in me, and I in them.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much actually, but I am trying to do more as I can become so disconnected and isolated, which isn't healthy either.
Sometimes I have to, for work or family stuff. But why do I engage socially when I want to? Because I want to connect with people, truly. Because even though I'm a total introvert I still need people. I love people, even when I hate them, and even when I want to hide away in my hermit hole.
What do you get out of socializing?
Choosing to interact socially is much different for me, because I can also choose who I interact with. And it's usually with people who can bring out the best in me, and I in them.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much actually, but I am trying to do more as I can become so disconnected and isolated, which isn't healthy either.
Mainly I just talk to my family. Seriously, they give me enough interaction. I am currently hiding from my neurotic nervous-energy Grandma at a coffee shop using their wifi. She's having a panic attack about losing her cat, and she has a panic about everything every 5 minutes so it's nothing new. People's moods, the noise they are making in the house, etc. really screw me up. Maybe if I was living alone I'd have more of a social life but because I'm already overstimulated at home netflix movies are REALLY as much "social" stimulation as I need. I can pretend to be friends with the movie characters...imagining convos is taxing enough...
Why do you socialize?
For fun, to know people mostly.
What do you get out of socializing?
The renewed and refreshed need to be alone. It's a vicious cycle.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much, it's more about the quality than the quantity anyway. I can't stand parties for too long.
For fun, to know people mostly.
What do you get out of socializing?
The renewed and refreshed need to be alone. It's a vicious cycle.
How much do you need to socialize?
Not much, it's more about the quality than the quantity anyway. I can't stand parties for too long.
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