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[INFJ] So... she called to talk after I sent her that message.

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  1. Yeah, get it done and over with.

  2. Politely decline meeting (Just screw it, tell her kthxbye, and see her in the far frontier )

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    LOL! Look at you giving me advice in your thread! :sweatsmile:

    This really is a sort of breakup for you Ordz. You'll carry through with it fine for sure. I hope you find the right person soon enough.
     
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    Also, I suggest you meet her. Close it up. Seal the deal. Reject her friendship in person so that it's clear how much you mean it. And yes. Return the gift. Be strong!
     
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    Why of course, i'm the moonman and my empathy is like the size of the surface area of my moon face :smirk::tonguewink:
     
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    No two situations are ever the same and sharing our experiences can definitely help others. I wasn't trying to argue with you but from my perspective the basis of advice is projection because how could you give another person advice based on what they want? That's not advice that's
    "Follow your heart!" Which again is not advice it's telling the other person to figure it out themselves lol
     
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    The moonface sealed it for me.

    Yeah no, no argument. I just felt like I crashed his thread a bit too strongly. It's all good. i hope.
     
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    You ruined his life and the forum
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    My life feels so empty without this girl boo-hoo Hoo world life is forever ruined and I’m destined to be forever alone

    Obviously no one is going to believe what I just wrote above lul.
     
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    The important question to ask is do you believe it?
     
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    Normalize round faces.


    I think you should go out on dates with other people and put your energy into that for a bit just to get your feelings for this woman out of your system. You need rebound dates.
     
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    obviously not. Thats my healthy dose of sarcasm really.
     
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    Nah, i doubt i will, i kinda take things one at a time. And then deal with other stuff. I’m pretty traditional. No tinder no online stuff. Good ol fashioned way. But !! But!! My friends are rooting for me to get to know this new colleague of mine in the office...

    And im like are you guys freaking serious! And hey round faces have more surface area to plant a smooch
     
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    Do et! It's just adding contacts to your phone book. I used to have a very serious attitude about the whole thing but I realized it's just getting to know people and casting a harmless net widely. It isn't guaranteed to work too. Imagine this: that the chances of finding the right one are low even while dating so then it's even lower when you're not even trying, right? You aren't dating the new girl too. Just befriending her a bit.
     
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    Getting to know people is illegal.
     
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    I get that. I'd be the same way. You need something to distract you and help you get over this, though. While I encourage you to get to know people your friends suggest*, be careful with work romances.

    Hey, I never thought about round faces that way. :pumpkin:

    *But only if your friends have good taste.
     
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    You know what they say about having a good sense of humour... and being able to poke fun at yourself .. not so much as in a self deprecating way but, knowing how to crack a joke :)
    @Hostarius waddaya mean knowing people is illegal :smirk:. I have half the mind to go up to the lass and like say.. "Helloo! is it meeee you're looking for? I can seeee ett in your eyesss!!" :tearsofjoy:

    Urgh. the annoyance of having to deal with mild drama.
     
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    It sounds to me like shes just not attracted to you. Maybe emotionally but I'm thinking physically. Not saying you're ugly, but if she was attracted to you, she'd want to move into a more romantic relationship and she doesn't. She wants the companionship as a friend not as a lover, and that is usually due to no attraction. Sorry. Just my opinion, but I'm overly cynical in this area so take it with a grain of salt if you want.
     
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    I say the same. Agreed
     
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    Well, speaking as a professional simp, the rational thing to do in this instance is to stop trying to make her like you and chase something better, probably God.

    I've been in many situations similar to the one you're in and I learned that you're better off doing things with guaranteed benefits: exercising, studying, working.

    I'm not saying you should ignore women you're trying to date but it's really not smart to go out of your way for someone and dance like a monkey. If she's not dancing like a monkey for you, she probably doesn't want your romance.

    If you can't maintain a friendship without romantic intent then you've got to move on bro. It's totally fine to flirt with women but you've got to stop if she isn't amused by your efforts, let alone entertaining them.
     
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