Shame

Strange there are no replies to this. I don't know if I feel excessive amounts of shame. How much is excessive? I hope someone replies.

 

A while ago I did have a great deal of shame, but then I recognized this as something I don't like having about, so I've been working on getting rid of it. I feel I've been rather successful. I just had a shouting conversation with my friend standing 20 feet/7 meters away about anal sex and the existence of the masculine G-spot, with me in favor of both. I didn't even blush. Actually I walked away laughing about how awkward we must made those who heard us feel!

 

I am in therapy for it.
I am getting better, but I have wasted a large part of my life being a slave to it. and that in itself causes even more shame.
I will conquer it.

 

Shame, no. Convition, yes

 

I understand that completely. I'm also in therapy (not just for shame) and I will concur my problems someday. I'm surprised the life hasn't been sucked out of me yet. haha.

Stay strong.

 

I'm pretty much shameless. I used to be the opposite, until I stopped caring. Now it's fun to flaunt my shamelessness in front of others and they find it charming and childlike.
Go figure.

 

I don't experience shame a lot, as I am good at preventing events that would cause it. Nevertheless, when I do feel shameful, it is very strong and hurtful. Mostly because I am tightly bound to social rule. I am very much the reverse of people who say "I have no shame".

 

I don't recall ever feeling shame actually. I sometimes feel embarrassed about something I've said or done, but it's never to the point of me being ashamed.

 

Shame, no.

Obsessed with faults, yes. I realize that this obessesion with faults is only detrimental, because the more I withdraw inward and analyze myself, the more sour I become. Self-awareness is good, but too much is just...meh. That's also why MBTI is probably more dangerous than beneficial for me.

 

See that's the odd thing. I feel little shame but I do feel guilt quite frequently. I guess I don't see the use of shame anymore, it was more prohibitive than productive.

 

As a child I was acutely aware that I was different and often felt shame, but I "outgrew" it...or something. I can't remember the last time I felt shame. Guilt, now, is a horse of a different color and something that still plagues me, especially around motherhood.

 

Yes and no. I don't feel shame at what society may want me to, such as not wearing matching colors or something silly, but if I do something that I truly regret then I will run it through my mind over and over and over.

 

If you look closely, you'll see there is agreement. People respond with one of two answers: either "yes" or "I used to, but I don't care anymore" (this is, of course excluding the INTJ who responded, Hi WaeV!). What seems to me to be the case is that we all have that acute sense of what we're supposed to be, and knowing we're not. This leads to the shame you describe. However, shame is not a positive emotion, and people get tired of it wen its so constant. This tiredness can drive people to simply stop caring if the general populace thinks we're weird or not. Without caring there is no need for shame, so we have no shame.