question about a possible cause of depression

• According to the biological perspective they would say that it is genetically predisosed and that you may have a seratonin imbalance.
• The psychodynamic would say it has to do with past childhood experience/trauma.
• The cognitive perspective would say it is due to your thought pattern and defence mechanism
• The learning/behavioral perspective would say you learnt it from your environment.

However when it comes to your mother simply passing it on to you by e.g. blood would be highly unlikely. Firstly, when you are pregnant hormons flush constantly affecting the mental set enormously. And also her being depressed and those thoughts on carrying the devils child etc could represent what is called 'pregnancy depression' which affects loads of women. Delusions are also common.
Ofc it must have been suprisingly devistating for her to know that she even had those thoughts.

When it comes to to your feelings I can fully relate and you describe it so well!! I also find myself either ultrahappy or in the midst of anguish.
However, I guaranee you that you haven't been depressed all your life. I assure you that if you would think of an event and merely go back and observe it with the perspective you have today - then you would realise that it is the attitude that has changed.

I hope you get better and don't focus to much about the diagnonsense (we love tagging ourselves don't we ) because ultimately it is not of use at all.

 

There is also some evidence that it could be related to your long term eating habits.

 

This I understand and sympathize with completely. I think I posted something very similar in Shaz's "Melancholy" thread.

It sucks, huh? Not being able to shake that feeling that things are going to get bad again, never really being able to get fully comfortable in happiness. It's like going to an awesome party when you know you can only stay for 45 minutes. You still enjoy it, but your happiness is tempered by the knowledge that your enjoyment is not open ended...

Just remember that the Buddah said "life is sadness." Is. KnowwhatImean?

Actually, and it breaks my heart to say this, but yes, I do think it affected it somehow. I'm reluctant to say "caused," but affected, I think quite possible.

The reason I say this is because of some experiences I have had with kundalini meditation. For those of you unfamiliar, kundalini meditation is a type of meditation that focuses on the 7 major chakras, and the process of moving energy around between the chakras and secondary energy points.

Because of my experiences, I am completely convinced of the existence of the "energy body" that surrounds and permeates our physical bodies. Furthermore, my intuition tells me that this energy is, in a weird way, the "physical" manifestation of our emotions. Or maybe more accurately, it's the bridge between the emotional realm and the physical realm. I believe this is where INFJs get some of their "psychic" powers. Not the precognitive dream stuff, but the feeling what other people are feeling stuff. I believe we are more sensitive to this energy, so when we walk into a room, we can pick up on the emotionally based energetic transmissions of others, and thus know who's angry, who's sad, etc.

I think in truth, everybody receives this informaton. It's like radio transmissions. Even if your radio isn't turned on, there are radio waves passing through your house (and through your body) all the time. Most people don't have their emotional/energetic "radios" turned on, so they only receive/perceive that kind of energy on an unconscious level. INFJs, on the other hand, are so much more sensitive to it that it's like we have our radios turned on, and we can perceive that kind of energy consciously.

So in that context, there is no question in my mind that you picked up on the emotional energy your mother was putting out. Arguably, as a fetus, you may not have been able to perceive it consciously, but I still think you felt it, and it affected you and your subsequent development. And considering the close emotional bond between mother and child, you may have felt it quite acutely, and thus it affected you to a greater degree. I can't even imagine what a fetus or newborn infant would feel if it perceived that it was somehow unwanted by it's mother. Even though she came around in the end (thank god for that, right?), and even though you don't remember it consciously, it still must have been an incredibly traumatic experience to go through.

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

 

That's a really good question... I lean toward the theory of 'learned from environment,' but only because from the way you started this post, I wondered about your upbringing. But then the fact that you mentioned that it hits you out of nowhere and the only thing that makes it go away is time seems like a seratonin imbalance. You talked to a therapist though, where did your therapist say it originated from or did they not say?

When I was younger I was prone to the 'depressive hijacking,' and I used to wake up everyday miserable (for me, it felt like a crushing morbid dread and everything seemed empty) until it would just 'just decide to' go away. I took meds which didn't work for me. Do you journal at all? I found that journaling really helped me a lot. I'd fill up notebooks with recording events and rambling thoughts and feelings. In the process, I seemed to get in touch with some deep issues that I was able to bring to the surface and resolve and that helped tremendously. I'm glad to hear that you still see yourself as an optimistic person and that you've learned how not to not let it affect your relationships as much. But am sorry that you still suffer from it.

 

Dylan~ That meditation souds like fun...where can I learn about it?

 

Well, I just did a slew of googling, and there's all kinds of stuff out there...

Here's my teachers' website: www.bodymindfullness.com

Here's a page that has a nice description of kundalini.

There's a type of yoga that focuses on kundalini, but in that practice you go into yoga poses, and we definitely were not in yoga poses while doing the meditation, we were sitting in chairs, with our eyes closed. The meditation described here is pretty close to what we were doing, but it seems more simple and direct. It talks about moving energy up your spine from the root chakra to the crown chakra, but what we were doing involved circulating energy along specific routes from the chakras to other points on the body.

Unfortunately I couldn't find anything that exactly fits what I did, but I'm sure it's out there, somewhere.

 

Dylan, that is brilliant. I've read stuff that was essentially the same as what you wrote. But it was spiritual-type writings. Channeled information, I think.

Eric, I can relate to only recently being aware of and feeling emotion, and repressing how I was feeling prior to that. Even these days, it's very easy for me to slip into "I don't feel anything" mode and feel numb instead. I don't always realize when that happens. It takes a while for me to clue in. And sometimes my emotions are all over the place. Hang in there.. I hope the good periods are much more steady and long-lasting.

 

Eric

 

Sounds like you have experienced two distinct issues -- (1) lack of emotion (aka anhedonia), which may be biologically caused, but also psychological; and (2) an inability to express your emotions, which is probably more psychological than biological. like merrytrees it might be related to upbringing and external environment (of which your experiences in the womb are definitely a part of).

i dunno why i thought that distinction was important, but maybe they might have different sources, or maybe they are related.

i wonder why your mom brought that up? seems like a unique thing to tell your child.

 

Depression is one of those disorders which most people face in there life as some stage for one reason or the other. If it's children the pressure of studies gets over their head and if it's adults the pressure of work attracts depression. Rather than going on drugs, one should look for the reason behind there problem . Keeping your self busy and changing the schedule also helps sometimes to get over stress and depression.

The best way to get over stress, depression and anxiety is to take a break from your regular schedule, go out, and take good sleep. This helps in clearing the mind and try consulting a specialist who can suggest you as how you can get over your problem. There are various prescription drugs to get over anxiety and depression, but these should only be used in accordance with the instruction of a physician and going on anti depressants should be the last option.

 

Alcyone-A diagnosis isn't all nonsense. Depression can be a serious condition and getting treatment is important, although it is true that it can be difficult to find the right way of treating it, since everyone is different.
Eric86, I really sympathize with your situation. While it is unlikely that your mother passed these feelings through her bloodstream, depression can be a hereditary condition. There is no one particular cause for it though, there are various factors that can play into it, and it also depends on each individual. I hope that you are able to work through it and receive the help that you need! I know how awful it can be.

On another note, depression isn't truly something that most people go through necessarily. While it is a very common condition, suffering from depression is different than merely feeling gloomy or downtrodden. Everyone experiences some form of sadness in their life, especially when going through difficult situations. However it's different from suffering from something like clinical depression.

 

My mom said that she felt great when she was pregnant with me and that she always wanted to be pregnant However, I am pretty depressed so I don't think that's it.