Privacy

I wrote this in my blog today... what thoughts do you guys have on privacy and being a private person?



Being a Private Person

Privacy is an interesting topic to me, because I consider private information different than what other people do. Anything someone could find in a record somewhere (divorce records, etc), I don't think of as private. Important things that people tell me, on the other hand, are absolutely private, and I won't share them. That trust is sacred to me.

Maybe it's because of all the therapy I had. Losing my parents at a young age, and growing up in foster care, I went through a LOT of therapy for trauma. Every time I moved to a new home I got therapy. Every time I sneezed I think I got therapy. Every therapist or social worker I would see, in their initial interview with me, would say, "Ok, now tell me your life story."

I could belt that thing out in 3 minutes flat (still could probably-but, unlike my listeners, I find it really BORING). I think it was my 27th therapist or social worker who said, "That's a terrible and extremely sad story! Don't you find it odd that you tell your life story without any emotion?

Ummm, no I didn't. I had told it so often to so many people that it was rehearsed. As a kid, I already knew they had my story in my foster care records. I had been prodded from every angle for every part of the 'story.' Talking about the traumas I went through had become nothing to me. Even still, to this day, every once in a while I will shock someone by saying something that happened in my past so offhandedly. The weird thing to me, is that it is off-hand to me. It's old news, I've moved on. My 'story' isn't me.

It was never about who I was, it was about what happened to me.

The 'stories' I may tell about myself in my blog are similar. People think I'm really open, but I know I'm not. Rarely will I talk about my intrinsic or intimate feelings. I don't talk about drama in my life, or what's stressing me - because... that's personal. I don't talk about my religious or spiritual beliefs or my sensitivity, and I definitely do not talk about things that I share with my boyfriend, or the stuff that my friends and I talk about to each other. These are things I share with my good friends if at all.

But I know I'm totally weird with privacy, because other people don't talk about things that I will, while other people will absolutely talk about things that I would never share. I think this is all a matter of how we grew up - an environmental factor.



Anyway, I am totally one of those people that seem to share too much, while I feel like I share stuff that's not that important to the 'me' I am. This is weird, huh?

 

Thanks NAI and Solar Empath.

NAI, We've just met and I already feel like you're a friend. I appreciate your viewpoints on privacy, and understand where you're coming from. I totally understand how you feel about your relationships especially!

I guess I just feel like a freak sometimes, because of how people react sometimes.

And being quiet rocks.

And Solar Empath, I'm also totally with you on the personal weaknesses thing. Why give this world of predators something like that????????? That's ammunition!!!! LOL.

 

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Sure....................................................................




after I pay off the mobsters.



Umm, maybe.

 

That's ok. I've always loved the Mob.

Really guys... and, ummm, I'd like to keep my legs.

LOLLLLL.

 

Wow. Those comments are right on!