I wrote this in my blog today... what thoughts do you guys have on privacy and being a private person?
Being a Private Person
Privacy is an interesting topic to me, because I consider private information different than what other people do. Anything someone could find in a record somewhere (divorce records, etc), I don't think of as private. Important things that people tell me, on the other hand, are absolutely private, and I won't share them. That trust is sacred to me.
Maybe it's because of all the therapy I had. Losing my parents at a young age, and growing up in foster care, I went through a LOT of therapy for trauma. Every time I moved to a new home I got therapy. Every time I sneezed I think I got therapy. Every therapist or social worker I would see, in their initial interview with me, would say, "Ok, now tell me your life story."
I could belt that thing out in 3 minutes flat (still could probably-but, unlike my listeners, I find it really BORING). I think it was my 27th therapist or social worker who said, "That's a terrible and extremely sad story! Don't you find it odd that you tell your life story without any emotion?
Ummm, no I didn't. I had told it so often to so many people that it was rehearsed. As a kid, I already knew they had my story in my foster care records. I had been prodded from every angle for every part of the 'story.' Talking about the traumas I went through had become nothing to me. Even still, to this day, every once in a while I will shock someone by saying something that happened in my past so offhandedly. The weird thing to me, is that it is off-hand to me. It's old news, I've moved on. My 'story' isn't me.
It was never about who I was, it was about what happened to me.
The 'stories' I may tell about myself in my blog are similar. People think I'm really open, but I know I'm not. Rarely will I talk about my intrinsic or intimate feelings. I don't talk about drama in my life, or what's stressing me - because... that's personal. I don't talk about my religious or spiritual beliefs or my sensitivity, and I definitely do not talk about things that I share with my boyfriend, or the stuff that my friends and I talk about to each other. These are things I share with my good friends if at all.
But I know I'm totally weird with privacy, because other people don't talk about things that I will, while other people will absolutely talk about things that I would never share. I think this is all a matter of how we grew up - an environmental factor.
Anyway, I am totally one of those people that seem to share too much, while I feel like I share stuff that's not that important to the 'me' I am. This is weird, huh?
Being a Private Person
Privacy is an interesting topic to me, because I consider private information different than what other people do. Anything someone could find in a record somewhere (divorce records, etc), I don't think of as private. Important things that people tell me, on the other hand, are absolutely private, and I won't share them. That trust is sacred to me.
Maybe it's because of all the therapy I had. Losing my parents at a young age, and growing up in foster care, I went through a LOT of therapy for trauma. Every time I moved to a new home I got therapy. Every time I sneezed I think I got therapy. Every therapist or social worker I would see, in their initial interview with me, would say, "Ok, now tell me your life story."
I could belt that thing out in 3 minutes flat (still could probably-but, unlike my listeners, I find it really BORING). I think it was my 27th therapist or social worker who said, "That's a terrible and extremely sad story! Don't you find it odd that you tell your life story without any emotion?
Ummm, no I didn't. I had told it so often to so many people that it was rehearsed. As a kid, I already knew they had my story in my foster care records. I had been prodded from every angle for every part of the 'story.' Talking about the traumas I went through had become nothing to me. Even still, to this day, every once in a while I will shock someone by saying something that happened in my past so offhandedly. The weird thing to me, is that it is off-hand to me. It's old news, I've moved on. My 'story' isn't me.
It was never about who I was, it was about what happened to me.
The 'stories' I may tell about myself in my blog are similar. People think I'm really open, but I know I'm not. Rarely will I talk about my intrinsic or intimate feelings. I don't talk about drama in my life, or what's stressing me - because... that's personal. I don't talk about my religious or spiritual beliefs or my sensitivity, and I definitely do not talk about things that I share with my boyfriend, or the stuff that my friends and I talk about to each other. These are things I share with my good friends if at all.
But I know I'm totally weird with privacy, because other people don't talk about things that I will, while other people will absolutely talk about things that I would never share. I think this is all a matter of how we grew up - an environmental factor.
Anyway, I am totally one of those people that seem to share too much, while I feel like I share stuff that's not that important to the 'me' I am. This is weird, huh?