If you could "fix" a relationship with any person of your choice, what would that feel like?
How would you act? How would they?
Changing people, how creepy.
Relationships are dynamic objects in and of themselves. Taking control of them is, in my opinion, polluting the reality of a connection between two people that could grow naturally without manual intervention.
@Arsal
this post was, for me, a thought.
I wonder what it would be like if my father didn't feel the need to dominate so many situations. His gestures are so often indicative of his opinion that he is superior to me and other members of my family, especially my mother.
I don't know if there is a solution. I just feel frustrated in my interactions with him. In an ideal world he would be more self aware and realize that his selfish and degrading behavior is disrespectful.
I don't know what tools I would use if I were trying to fix this relationship.
Just a reccuring thought. I've kind of given up.
@Arsal
this post was, for me, a thought.
I wonder what it would be like if my father didn't feel the need to dominate so many situations. His gestures are so often indicative of his opinion that he is superior to me and other members of my family, especially my mother.
I don't know if there is a solution. I just feel frustrated in my interactions with him. In an ideal world he would be more self aware and realize that his selfish and degrading behavior is disrespectful.
I don't know what tools I would use if I were trying to fix this relationship.
Just a reccuring thought. I've kind of given up.
I know I have blind spots, too, though. It's hard when it's so personal, difficult to be objective.
If you could "fix" a relationship with any person of your choice, what would that feel like?
How would you act? How would they?
I would act like a nazi, and they would do as they were told, and I would be utterly miserable about it... I am glad I dont have this power.
Indeed, and in the process, enslaving yourself to forever monitoring and controlling and taking all responsibility. For gods sake, sometimes I just want to autopilot and let someone else take the wheel.Fixing sound like enslaveing a personality.
Fixing sound like enslaveing a personality.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lydBPm2KRaU&ob=av3eIndeed, and in the process, enslaving yourself to forever monitoring and controlling and taking all responsibility. For gods sake, sometimes I just want to autopilot and let someone else take the wheel.
Abuse. Be assured he is very aware of what he's doing and it can be very damaging to you and the rest of your family. I bet he rarely behaves that way in public and everyone thinks he's a wonderful person. You have a right to your own identity and to be treated as an equal even in your family.
Oh and you can't fix him.