I have in the last year matured to a point that I have started to understand how strongly I wanted to blame those around me for situations (relationships) that went bad (or were actually bad right out of the gate). After sitting with my ex in a therapy session for his issue, the therapist turned to me and told me that I was REACTIVE and what an unhealthy way it was it was to live. That I was as responsible for the relationship and outcome as my (then) husband. SHOCKED when he said it, I have come to understand that I am an adult woman who has made the choices to participate in the situations I have involved myself in. I cant help but notice thread after thread after thread I read in here how many INFJ's victimize themselves. I am shocked at the lack of personal accountablity. I had been recently looking into this aspect of the INFJ and find, the unhealthy INFJ indeed sees themselves as a victim vs accountable. I now see I am not a victim of anything other than of my own personal choices. I am intereseted in how other INFJ's view victimization and blame.