Thanks for showing me the other side. And yes I have experience with an unhealty Fi-dom. Combined with Se and alcohol:
I, myself, am definitely a Fe user and when I'm working on something the thing that will almost guarantee to take over my attention are other people.
Fe is indeed more superficial, even being nice to people you don't like. I recognise that.
If I look back on my teens, I show both some strong Fi and strong Fe parts.
I was obsessed with having people not dislike me. I would go great lengths to not offend people. Never be pushy.
On the other hand I really kept to myself. No alcohol or smoking, because I thought it was pathetic. I still possess some values that always come up to me again.
Honesty for example. Brutal honesty. This clashes with my Fe often and I've learned ways to sugercoat criticism.
I can see how bullying works with Fe, but I think you can argue for both sides there.
Already on elementary I was (and still am) the guy who is the first friend of the 'new kid'. I'm really sensitive to excluding people. But maybe that's my INTJ Fi at work. I've never really been hurt in my past, except exclusion. Everyone like me, but I didn't belong anywhere. So maybe I can just relate to the new kid and thus desire to help them.
I see how 'selfish' is a bad word and how my first post was too much in favour of Fe. But bear with me trying to understand this.
Dealing with your own feelings (Fi) isn't necessarily selfish. By not interacting with people you don't like you save them and yourself a lot of energy.
Fe can be related to blindly following dictators. Everyone follows him, so I can't step out of line.
But in these cases Fi is still related to your own gut feeling (which is undoubtly right very often, as I trust my Ni) and not to the feelings of the other.
Fe is related to others. Everyone fits in and there's social pressure to not rebel against the dictator. A Fi-dom would be much more inclined to rebel than a Fe-dom.
Fi follows his or her own values.
Fe follows the values of the crowd.
Both can be good and bad, but Fi would still be more "selfish". Like Lucy said:
Fe users can be superficial and bullying. Fi users can be selfish and inconsiderate.
But both can also be the other way around.
Fi users can have strong internal integrity. Fe users can be very considerate.
Thanks, it worked.