I think for the most part [MENTION=528]slant[/MENTION] feels alienated among her peers. The problem is this (which I opened a thread:
http://www.infjs.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21275).
Is it possible you see no distinction between your personal life and your social life? The retort: "Why should I have to??"
I'm noticing that those who do not see the distinction are very obnoxious, loud, irritating to others and negative. They don't know how to control their mouth. Not everyone wants to hear what you have to say. Not everyone wants to talk about discrimination, politics, religion .... for these things most of us KNOW you do not bring up in social settings. It's just etiquette.
Metaphorically, social groups are a calm body of water. ^^^^^^^^^^^^ is the huge rock thrown in the middle causing distress.