At one point my father was advising me on what to do with the wife (ESTP) when she gets melancholic and seems generally upset but at nothing in particular. He said that she wasn't feeling right, her inner INFJ had lost it's sense of "oneness".. and then failed for like 2 hours to ever pin down what this "oneness" actually was. So I figured you guys may be able to help here. I'm trying to figure this out so that I can be more helpful as at the moment when her shadow engages I can't read her (typical INFJ emotions at the bottom of a glacier type effect) and I consistently fail to be of use without some kind of parameter. Everything I have tried so far to motivate her out of these troughs fails and I can't think of anything new to try. So please, if you know this "oneness" this point where you feel most contented/ happy is definable or most usefully you know what boxes need to be ticked for it to happen then let me know. I'm interested in general about how INFJs tick but in specific it's what you might envisage a poorly developed INFJ would do/ feel. Thanks in advance.