Look. The issue that I have with this is not the fact that I feel like I am going to/want to change my mind to please society. That is not going to happen. I am a determined person. If I make a decision out of an amount of thought and logic has gone into it, I'm going to stick with this decision. I am also a person that is concerned with the world I live in at large, and it seems like everyone I talk to about this issue whether they be in my age range, 50, 40, 30...have had a very limited amount of thinking on having children. It was either accidental or they did it to follow the heard because 'thats just what you do'. Our world does not need more babies. And if people would sit down and think critically, I bet out birth rate would go down measurably. I'm not saying everyone would stop having kids. Someone always is going to. But I'm saying those who do have kids might opt to have kids that aren't biologically their own and stop placing so much value on genetics, because children and that experience has nothing to do with if you are related or not. Maybe the people who stop and think about reasons to have children will wait twenty years when they are more prepared financially to take care of them. And maybe, a lot of the people will decide they can help children and society in a more profound way. Maybe these people will become activists who travel the world and live their life in a way that would be impossible to raise kids in, or harmful to them.
My point is just that I think not having kids is a taboo topic.
And just to clarify, oh yes, I am getting a lot of pressure right not to have children. It is not indirect, it is very direct. People will speak about my grandchildren or my children I'm going to have and the husband I am going to marry and always argue with me when I insist that's not the way I see my life panning out. I don't understand what gives other people the right to judge my life because I choose not to have kids, when I don't judge them when they choose TO have kids. In no means am I looking down on people who do have kids, it's just from my observation I don't think that a lot of people give it enough thought, if any at all, and I think that's the irresponsible society we have boiled down to. At no time have I ever heard from anyone, anywhere, that if I don't want to have kids that's okay- nor have when these 'hypothetical' situations come up about my kids and grandkids have people stopped to think, "Gee. Maybe this person won't have kids nor grandkids. Maybe that's something I should consider before crafting imaginary assumption lives about this person."