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    Lust vs. Love: What's the diff? When did lust turn into love? How was it different? What it easy to figure out?



    SIGNS OF LUST

    • You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
    • You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
    • You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
    • You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
    • You are lovers, but not friends.
    SIGNS OF LOVE

    • You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
    • You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
    • You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
    • He or she motivates you to be a better person.
    • You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...01108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference
     
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    Not like I'm really an authority on this, but I think that even if I loved someone I wouldn't want to meet their family and friends--time spent entertaining them is time I could spend with my SO, after all.
     
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    Love is no where near as exciting.
     
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    That's just the nature of lust.
     
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    Love is sustainable and grows over time.
     
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    So does my boner
     
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    Wouldn't your boner grow with love? ;D
     
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    In a relationship based on lust you are obsessed with the other person but an a deeper level you are not actually really interested in them. (Although you think you are).

    When you love somebody you sacrifice some of your pride / some of yourself for the others sake and you don't mind doing it..whereas in a lustful dynamic you are basically concerned about what you think you should rightfully have.

    Lust cannot be satiated and is therefore never satisfied. Love is sustaining and helps you feel whole.
     
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    Poor ruji, someone will love you someday. Maybe centuries from now, but someday. :)

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    Lust is the propeller of civilization. Without lust, we'd be in caves.
     
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