Knowing others better than they do

Yeah I get this a lot. But people don't like to be told how they feel, so I keep quiet and be all like "Oh really?" when they confirm what I already knew.

 

i'm rather hesitant to articulate these intuitive gists as they more often than not, as Yield already pointed out, result in sometimes strong defensive reactions from people. mostly, i've learned to trust my intuition as it in itself is as good a confirmation as milking it out of people, especially in regards to sensitive areas they would otherwise not want pointed out.

 

I get these moments when I know if a storm is brewing. I also know when someone is gonna reply to message or not. Like, there was something in the pattern before hand that makes me instinctively know if someone will reply or confirm correspondence to me. Once I've sent a text or email to someone I've been talking too, I'll know if they're going to reply or not, I just get this feeling in my stomach. Strange.

 

I do tend to know people better than most, actually. I don't really notice it, or talk about it, but when it comes to giving people advice or talking to someone about the way the feel or the way someone else feels, I'm usually able to actually explain them to them.

It's times like that where I realize that not everyone knows why the people around them do the things they do. It seems strange to me, cuz ever since I was a kid I would know without having to think about it.

 

My life is driven by this kind of intuition.

And despite my years, it never ceases to amaze me how insanely defensive people as a species can get, even when the proof is staring them right in the face. Denial seems to be a constant in at least 90% of people.

My problem is I'm very strongly opinionated when it comes to dishonesty and a lack of empathy, and if I feel like someone is doing something I think is wrong, I have a heavy tendency to confront them with it.

It rarely goes down well, but at least it means I know who my real friends are.

 

Yes! This happens to me al lot. But I usually don't mention anything about it, because as others have already said, I've also experienced that people don't like it.

 

What I've noticed is that if you are trying to solve a problem, it is wisest NOT to give them options to chose from. In other words, don't ask them if they think this way or that way. What ends up happening is the person says yes- and they may not even think that way, I believe it's some sort of natural inclination to take something that would logically make sense and claim it as what they are thinking in that present moment.

 

Heheh you INFJs can't trick me, it doesn't work.

 

Yeah but then everyone thinks your an asshole. That's why I don't say anything anymore!

 

I think it's great. It's like my fun little secret. Actually when I see that me saying something can influence a situation that's going the wrong way, I usually find a way to make myself clear not sounding too uhm.. creepily mind reading . I don't really seem to experience disadvantages from it.

 

This happens to me all the time and usually would get me into hot water as I would blurt out what I noticed as it entered my mind. Now that I'm older I've gotten used to keeping it to myself and using it to my advantage. No one appreciates it so I've decided to use it for my gain.

 

I think I know what you guys are talking about to some extent. But you can't just expect someone to listen to you just because of your intition, that's not a good reason and they don't believe you because they don't personally feel that way.
An example from my life is that my sister INTP is always falling for the wrong types of guys. She's really into guys she percieves as intellegent and charming and attractive but some of these guys I can see through how its just an act and really they're jerks who'll ewnd up using her and hurting her. But however all the do is act charming and nice so I have no proof when I try to tell my sister that they're a bad match. And then its soo painful and frusturating when she does end up hurt but I can't blame her for not going against her own feelings to listen to my intuition.

 

Oh wait this is about getting others to understand themselves not other ppl. sry wasn't paying attention. Nvm then. I don't get this I don't think.

 

This is a very consistant theme in my life. I lost count on how many friends end up coming back to me saying "...you were right". I don't want to say that I know people better them they know themselves, because everyone knows themselves best. But... I do know some people very very well.

The ironic thing is if someone tries to tell me how I am I get very very defensive.

 

I get defensive too, a lot of the time. I'm trying to work out that part of myself.