Is lonelyness a signal of extroversion?

everyone gets lonely...even us uber secluded hermit types...On some level we all crave human interaction, for introverts its just more intimate closeness, than random. An extrovert craves people yes, but do not care if they are close friends or complete strangers, Introverts crave people who they are close to.

 

I know the feeling...I always feel so out of place in every group I am in. Luckily My ENFJ bFF always helps me out. Honestly I would have NO friends if it were not for her. All I can suggest is if you have a group of people you normally hang out with, you need to be proactive. I know its a hard thing to do when talking about socializing. But when theres a topic of conversation you can jump in on, JUMP...Sometimes I hide my very shy demeanor by being the class clown. Sometimes you have to put on a mask and let them like your alter ego, before you removed the facade and show them who you really are.

 

If you can get involved in a group centered around an activity instead of putting yourself out there with the idea that you are doing it to get involved with people, it may take the pressure off and allow you to make friends. I think it is easy to be self-conscious when you are approaching a social situation with the sole intention of meeting people. By instead, focusing on an activity or common interest, you may feel less nervous.

 

okay sry, I actually bothered to read this time. I'm really sorry for not doing so before.
My advice is maybe start at the begining. Is their any particular reason you're feeling so unconfident to begin with? Is it due to a particular issue like low self esteem that your trying to over come, a negative expirience that you've had or is it because you just haven had much parctice in conversationand are unsure of what to say? Sort our the particualr root or roots of this problem, and then work on over coming them from there

 

Kids are so horrible, I had a very rough go of school as well. Have you asked for counseling, if not do. If so ask your counselor to speak to your parents about switching schools. I am very sorry your parents believe all those people above you. Its absolutely horrific. You are the victim of extreme hazing and no one will do anything about it. My heart goes out to you, because I understand.

 

Omg I'm about to cry! I wanna hug you right now soo badly! </3
Kids are just . . . people can be so cruel. They just do what . . . omg that's awful. Sry I sound like an idiot but that's terrible. I'm so sry.
It's just cause people are stupid. They just do all they can to conform. It's cause they are scared weak people. They pick on you because your different, they don;t understand you so they torment you because of it. And another part of it is is that they are just doing what they think they're supposed to. They're mindless sheep. Like society tells them through movies and such that people make fun of the pee kid so that's what they do. They know not what they do. They are ignorant fools. And all the rest are scared to associate with you because they are frightened and don't want to have to suffer the same fate you have. I'm so sry sorry. That's so terrible. It's injust.

 

I want to cry too, but mostly I'm angry. I wanna call that school, or the parents and tell them what utter imbeciles they are. Or beat some heads in!!!

Opps my violent side is showing again!

 

Nope everyone gets depressed, although I can see how that question is derived from a logical connection. Good thinking.

 

Loneliness is probably more a sign of introversion than extroversion because introverts tend to value fewer but more deep connections with others which are more difficult to come by. This is probably not absolute though.

 

Perhaps, but extreme introverted people I find have less need for the friends. I think loneliness is most common in introverted extroverts, extroverted introverts, or extreme extroverts. Ok that's a bit general I know, it covers about 80-90% of people at least. What do you think?

 

Yeah think of what you miss out on if you don't feel lonely. I would feel emotionally lonely if I could never feel lonely, like that emotion wasn't there to keep me company, I am so alone without my loneliness.

 

Humans are social creatures, and as such, we need positive validation. There is no exception I'm aware of, and even very polarized introverts (I'm very introverted) need positive validation. Go read some Carl Rogers.

So no, loneliness is not a sign of any personality attribute...it is a sign that you need people who value you and share your values/outlook.

 

That is what I would think typically, but what I was getting at is that it is the quality and not the quantity that would account for more when it comes to friends. You might need less friends, but you still need at least 1 friend.

I'm sure there are many many lonely people both extroverted and introverted. I have no idea how we could accurately assess whether one is more prone than the other, but my guess is that the more a person wants to be deeply valued, connected, and have a high level of intimacy with someone, the more likely they are to be lonely.

 

Oh yeah, everyone needs some connections you know. No one is completely introvert or completely extrovert. I am an extrovert who prefers fewer quality friends vs more quantity, so really any combination is possible.


I have also noticed some people really need romantic relationships all the time and they tend to be lonely socially. Others need friends a lot, and can be lonely with romantic relationships.

I wish I could eliminate the loneliness from the world, because it really is a horrible feeling. It's like being starving and then when you get some food it feels so great. You know, posting on this board is a cure for loneliness too.

 

Yeah. I think that I am a person who really needs an intimate relationship but cannot acquire and/or maintain one easily.

That is the metaphor that I use for loneliness as well- like hunger. I do think posting on this board helps with loneliness, which is probably why I'm addicted to this forum.

 

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