Is it just plain, cold coincidence ?

This isn't about philosophy or religion per se, but I couldn't find a subsection where it would fit.

You see, I sometimes have these moments which are a break from and the opposites of my usual pessimistic outlook.

For example, for the past few weeks, I've been longing to just run into someone who I would be able to relate to. I grew up in a village in a rain forest, and not too many people could relate to that. Yesterday, I was supposed to go to the dentist. But I was late for the bus, and I also missed the stop (I've never been to that place before).

When I reached there, I met a young woman in the waiting room. She just walked up to me and a conversation opened up, and for once, it just flowed! I didn't feel the usual akwardness, my intuition (or spidey sense) didn't send off any warning signals. We just talked as easy as pie and as the conversation went on, I learned that she grew up in the same country and also had relatives who lived in rainforest villages. In other words, I finally found someone with whom I could relate , and it turned out to be on more levels than one. The similarities just kept piling up.

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Now, a few things:

1. This is the very FIRST time I ran into someone who could relate to me on so many levels, and I've been here for almost a decade.

2. If I wasn't late and if I didn't miss my stop, the person would have left already.

3. The last few weeks, I had a reached the plateau/ peak/ summit in my yearning for someone to whom I could talk about those things.

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I am wondering if 1 came about only because of 3.

Maybe the only reason why I found the person is because I was actively looking for that more than at any other point in my life. Sometimes, you only find soemthing, if you are looking out for it (as obvious as that sounds) and if all your exertions are in synchronization with the object of your desire.


OR

Because of the intensity of 3, I was somehow steered towards that person by some... I'll just say "benevolent energy." This caused 2. It also caused the person to look straight at me and walk up to me and strike up the conversation.



OR

plain old coincidence, and 2 was pure accident. and 1 only seems amazing because of the tunnel vision produced by 3.


Consider that this is the first time in a decade, I have run into someone like that, and that I was at a point of despair as indicated by 3.

(I hope I didn't confuse anyone with those numbers. I couldn't think of a better system at the time )