Do you feel it's a key or important part of you to care for someone in a deep, personal, or nurturing way whether with friends, family, or partners?
I personally feel it's important. Whether or not that is healthy is another matter.
It's not something I consciously make important, but with fair-weathered friends, I get disinterested or felt left out easily.
It's like, I want to know everything of you. Your joys, your pain, your good and bad side, your dark side, your golden side. And if I don't, I get.....anxious. And... stuck.
Now consciously I know the importance about healthy boundaries and having individuality inside a relationship,
and also I know how some people hated that.
so there's a fight between a part of me that wants and a part of me that wants to avoid hurting.
Do you think it's a positive or can it be a negative, and how?
Both.
You got a greater insight of humanity-- and you get to be kinder; the opportunity presents itself.
But there's always the risk of enabling, the risk of being manipulated, used;
or from our own side, the risk of possessiveness, of building irrational and impossible expectations.
Ego will find a way to sneak inside regardless,
and when your kindness starts being tainted by ego and 'look at what it will make me look like'; it's horrible and almost futile.
When that part of you is not satisfied, how does it feel?
Horrible, too.
Sad. ("Am I not worthy enough to see everything? After what I've done?")
Insecure ("Do you secretly hate me? Am I not likeable (because if I am, surely you will open up to me..right?)")
I have this strange situation where I forgot the good that had happened and instead feeling like the relationship has come into stagnancy. Like-- logically I can settle down and enjoy what was presented, but emotionally I just can't.
Interestingly, my mind wrestled against putting this into words, which means it was a truth-- an Ego kind of truth.