INFJs, how did your folks treat you when you were children?

My relationship with my parents is a complete mess. I don't want to talk about it. I feel more sorry for them though as time goes on. They had a very rough relationship with both of the families they came from. They do ok for themselves, and I'll just say I'm happy for them. But they'll never admit it's a mess and that they've basically transferred their burdens and problems onto me. So, I'm glad to be cut off to start over, from scratch..."lucky me"

 

I talked back all the time so I was pretty much beat daily by my mother. A good example was getting whipped by belt before church. I didn’t want to wear those funny dress pants. I hated the way the fabric felt on my legs. I didn’t mind church, all I wanted was to wear what I wanted, jeans. I would have even wore black jeans. But all my mom would say is, everyone else’s kids wear the dress clothes and she wasn’t going to have people talk about her family.
See what she didn’t know is that, other kids would think I was the coolest for wearing jeans to church but my mom would have been gossiped about. In reality, I just didn’t want to wear dress pants and was willing to get whipped for it. I always lost. It was always worse in the end cause now I had these belt welts all on my legs and now the dress pant fabric sensation felt 10,000% worse all while I had to watch my mom clap and sing to a fucking statue. Talking about ...”Peace Be With You”...oh just fuck right off.
“Because I’m your mother.” Was never a legit reason for me to accept things my mom would tell me to do. My mother and I are not close. I don’t even call her on Mother’s Day. I know I’m shit for that but if I could be different, I would, but I can’t. Too many beatings and not enough understanding.

 

Thanks for your thoughts. My relationship with my folks comes to mind ever so often only because it's just baffling and sad. Things didn't have to turn out how they did. But I feel sorry for them now. They'll never know me. They'll never get to see what I've created with my life. They'll never have a cut or gift or be able to stand with pride from any of my endeavors. And I'm glad.

 

Thanks for the kind words! I’m not angry with her about it, I just don’t make an effort to contact her. There’s more than just being hit. But I guess I’ll talk about that when the time is right.