INFJ+INFJ?

Congratulations!

 

Before I launch into my story, the disclaimer I'd like to put out here is that I think it depends on the two people involved and what they want from the relationship.

My best guy friend is some weird INFJ/INTJ hybrid, and while he's shown interest in me once upon a time, I can't honestly say that I could've seen us working. Don't get me wrong, he is a pretty good looking, smart, and very nice guy, but I know myself... I need someone who can get me out of my usual routine to try new things. Challenge my perspective. Go different places. Otherwise I know we'd get too comfortable doing the things that are most comfortable to us. And its not necessarily because I would get bored of one another; on the contrary, I think we'd be quite easy to stay content with one another. We might even get married because it would be sailing so well. But we wouldn't really grow as people.

Then again, I'm almost exclusively attracted to ENTP or ENTJ types... Woe is me.

 

After raising four great kids and twenty years of singleness, I have to say I have no clue whatsoever about relationships. My last clues seemed to have evaporated ten years ago as my heart slowly turned into a solid block of ice. That said....I do heartily cheer for true love, so best of luck!!!!!

 

Not to worry, dearie. There is an element of comedy to the whole thing and I am content. Love is a wonderful thing.

 

I say you can ignore the recommendations on type compatibility and get with whatever your heart desires. I've dated INFJs and it was a very good experience. The only "problem" is that standard tactics do not work on them as they see you through. Being INFJ yourself you're probably not used to it Scientific studies show that attraction for most couples is based on similarity.

 

I have never been with an INFJ, so I can't say from first-hand experience. I will tell you what my mind and my Ni think on the subject though. First, as has already been said, the individuals involved certain play a deciding role on whether it's a good match. You cannot base something so complicted as love and relationships, solely on the shoulders of the MBTI classifications.

With that being said, I feel that INFJ to INFJ is probably more often than not a good match. We work hard at relationships, are very empathic towards others, and desire deep connections. Extreme introversion could be an issue there. The "opposites attract" theory is BS in my book. Yes, people want a little variety and mystery in their life. But the best matches are where people have plenty in common, and where they understand each other.

 

long story short! fuck MBTI!!! try not get ahead of yourself and find out by spending time with the person if it will work or not!

 

Love is real. MBTI is an abstraction. Go with Love I say.

 

Compatibility will be great and you will get into a "comfortable" zone. But after two years you will get bored if the other INFJ is not up for trying new things....Good Luck

Plus its all about the type of relationship/lifestyle you want with that person. You don't want to be in a relationship that does not help you grow...and from my experience most INFJs grow from being exposed to other types.

It's a catch 22. InFJ's love comfort and understanding, but you will desire something different...or at least I did. The understanding and comfort does not make for an exciting relationship...unless you are very stable and mature person.