INFJ ignoring INTJ
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*sniffs* For an INFJ, that's not very nice, @VH.
I'm one of those rare not nice INFJs. Hehe.
Didn't mean to totally derail this thread.
Just walk up to her and ask her if she's an INFJ. If she is (or if she's never taken the test), then you've got conversation leverage. If not, then you have a better idea of what you're working with. Either way is win.
Just walk up to her and ask her if she's an INFJ. If she is (or if she's never taken the test), then you've got conversation leverage. If not, then you have a better idea of what you're working with. Either way is win.
I think that might do well if she isn't an INFJ, but if she is, I think he'd be blowing his chances. Especially if she hasn't heard of MBTI. If a guy came up to me and started talking about something I'd never heard of or typing me when he hadn't spoken to me, I'd be turned off and irritated. I'd also be really overwhelmed by that kind of interaction from a stranger. And coming from a guy... it'd come across as creepy. Any guy that thinks he's watched me enough to know my personality would give me big time 'stalker' red flags (I think that might be more of a woman thing than an INFJ thing).
Trust me, I have encountered quite a few INFJ males who are that way as well. They're on their guard.
@VH;
don't worry, us INTJ (lol thanks @Serenity stare at you NF's with the same kind of facination...oh my god, did they just say..that makes no sense ... (uh, you get the idea)
Honestly, some of my bestest friends are Feelers...really...
As to OP, I wouldn't spend too much energy on the planning phase and get to actual effort at some point.
don't worry, us INTJ (lol thanks @Serenity
stare at you NF's with the same kind of facination...oh my god, did they just say..that makes no sense ... (uh, you get the idea)Honestly, some of my bestest friends are Feelers...really...
As to OP, I wouldn't spend too much energy on the planning phase and get to actual effort at some point.
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What?! Saying "Hi" is already too much pressure? Yeah, well perhaps I'll try some smoke signals... or semaphore.
I am definitely not going to mention anything about MBTI. Jeeesus... have you guys really started a conversation with a stranger with MBTI?
Haha I understand how crazy it can sound. But... yes it is! If you just say 'Hi,' then suddenly its on us to pull a conversation out of nowhere with someone that we don't know and don't know if we're comfortable with. That's a lot of pressure and takes a lot of energy out of us. Its not that we can't, its just that if you're wanting to cultivate attraction and positive feelings, its not the best way to go about it. Once we've talked or interacted before, no big deal at all. We aren't this way because its logical, we're this way because we're made this way. I know its frustrating, but you won't get far ignoring it!
Generally, asking us a question about the material at hand (like something from a meeting or lecture) or just a polite compliment and moving on is a brief, positive first encounter that will open us up to more. It may not make sense, but at least its pretty easy to do
Hi technics,
I have the impression that you are you really looking for an INFJ and are seeing them everywhere
What will you do if she isn't an INFJ? What then?
The speed at which you started liking a girl you hardly exchanged two words with seems out of character with the NTs I know when it comes to looking for a mate.
My INTJ friend made a whole science of finding his girlfriend. He made a whole list of traits he wanted her to have and made short succinct analyses of all the dates he had on his long punishing path to finding the one.
She does happen to be an INFJ but that's besides the point.
I have the impression that you are you really looking for an INFJ and are seeing them everywhere
What will you do if she isn't an INFJ? What then?
The speed at which you started liking a girl you hardly exchanged two words with seems out of character with the NTs I know when it comes to looking for a mate.
My INTJ friend made a whole science of finding his girlfriend. He made a whole list of traits he wanted her to have and made short succinct analyses of all the dates he had on his long punishing path to finding the one.
She does happen to be an INFJ but that's besides the point.
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I'm not looking for a girlfriend, actually. Just happens that she caught my eye because of all her continuous staring at me lol.
But if she's not an INFJ then I'll switch to my native flirting mode and just throw away the MBTI thinking.
I've never been really good in flirting, but I used to be a good conversationalist... could easily tune in to someone's wavelength. But even that is rusty now. It's buried under a heap of Te and Ti.
But yesterday someone from that peer group approached me with a crystal clear signal of interest. And somehow that buried conversationalist within me got jumpstarted and within seconds I was in flirting mode. Oooh la la, very exciting.
It's spring, definitely.
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@VH;
don't worry, us INTJ (lol thanks @Serenity
Honestly, some of my bestest friends are Feelers...really...
I'm not worried.
I have three really close INTJ friends now. I love em. They are some of my closest friends. I still have the odd issue with INTJs when I meet them getting offended by me, something I said or did, but I usually win them over.Yup. Seems to work almost every time when I'm talking to an INFJ. Though, I generally won't open the subject unless I'm pretty sure they're an N type, as N types tend to be open to it.
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Works surprisingly well. It's easier to have a conversation about a topic rather than about the 2 people present.
No, not at all. But you'd enjoy it more if I demonstrated it to you personally.
