I think I'm losing my best friend
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My friend doesn't trust a single guy that gets within 5 feet of her. He knows she hates this so he hides his emotions behind a mask. He's content with that for now but it can't last I've talked to him about it he doesn't trust her. period. He doesn't trust the people who get anywhere near her without exception. and I'm not sure if anyone but me notices because of how he hides. This is my problem.
Nope.
Wrong again. This is his problem. He's obviously too insecure to be in a relationship (very few teenagers are but thats another discussion). But that is his problem not yours.
Again, you hanging with his girl ISN'T helping the situation between you and him!
If he feels that she is untrustworthy then he needs to listen to his instincts and dump her to the curb because if she isn't trustworthy then there is a reason for it.
It's like having a pet jaguar. Oh yeah, it looks cool and no one is going to have one like it, but no matter how tame and docile it seems...One day you wake up and it's gnawing on your foot.
However....she is his problem. Not yours. If he chooses to not deal correctly with his problem, that is HIS problem. You hanging with his girl is your bad. Not his.
Wrong again. This is his problem. He's obviously too insecure to be in a relationship (very few teenagers are but thats another discussion). But that is his problem not yours.
Again, you hanging with his girl ISN'T helping the situation between you and him!
If he feels that she is untrustworthy then he needs to listen to his instincts and dump her to the curb because if she isn't trustworthy then there is a reason for it.
It's like having a pet jaguar. Oh yeah, it looks cool and no one is going to have one like it, but no matter how tame and docile it seems...One day you wake up and it's gnawing on your foot.
However....she is his problem. Not yours. If he chooses to not deal correctly with his problem, that is HIS problem. You hanging with his girl is your bad. Not his.
I don't understand his p.o.v. whats more If its what I think then I don't believe in it.
I think I'm going to talk to him directly about it. for the record he didn't trust me around her before we started hanging out.
alcyone you assume to know alot about my friends and who they are I wonder if you relate this to past experience and assume its the same thing... as for staying out of the way, are you aware of the term concrete angel?
I think I'm going to talk to him directly about it. for the record he didn't trust me around her before we started hanging out.
alcyone you assume to know alot about my friends and who they are I wonder if you relate this to past experience and assume its the same thing... as for staying out of the way, are you aware of the term concrete angel?
Past experience? Nothing directly. I let my other friends date each other and split up the group. With one excpetion (which was a great mistake) I didn't date the people I went to school with. And I refused to get involved with my co-workers when I was single in the military. Why? Because foresight is a trait not commonly associated with teenagers. I wondered what would happen when things went sour. I'd still have to look at, be around, observe the Ex. I just didn't care to deal with that kind of drama. So I stayed single or dated outside the school/workplace.
As for it being the same thing, I have some sad news for you. Nothing is unique. Nothing you are going through right now isn't being played out in high schools all across the country, hasn't happened before. And it will all happen again.
And no, I have no clue what a concrete angel is.
Unless you are referring to it's usefulness in tying someones legs to then chucking the statue overboard into a lake.
Soprano Style.
I am so confused here? Could you please tell me the answer you would like to hear? That way I could at least know where you are coming from. It seems like you should not give a crap what he thinks about anything. Your willing to place something between your relationship with your friend. You state that you guys have been so called bff for a very long time. So you would ditch your bff for another person no matter who he or she is? It really is a question of loyalty. What or who are you loyal too? Is it your own selfish needs and desires or is it your friends best interests? Is this girl so interesting that she is worth the cost of a bff? Or does she just make you feel all warm and fuzzy? I am still confused as hell and damn glad that your not my bff. If I had to try to sort this all out I would kick you and her to the curb and cut my losses.
saying nothing is unique is the same as saying everything is. The uniqueness should be simple to see as it is happing to me and my friends in a such order that has never happened before.
A concrete angel is a story about people who ignored others problems. A girl goes to school same as everyone else, sometimes with bruises on her face, the people ignore it, not there problem right? one night her neighbours hear screams but they decided not to do anything about it since they didn't hear the screams again. The next mourning she was found dead in her house.
A concrete angel is a story about people who ignored others problems. A girl goes to school same as everyone else, sometimes with bruises on her face, the people ignore it, not there problem right? one night her neighbours hear screams but they decided not to do anything about it since they didn't hear the screams again. The next mourning she was found dead in her house.
why is it that I say I'm friends with my friends gf and immeadealty this whole thing becomes some 7th heaven cilche where I'm a bastard Jock that ruins friendship for a girl.
My friend is overprotective of her to the point where he doesn't trust me. I don't know what to do to help him. this problem was here with him before I came along. no one has yet said anything about what he should do. Thats the whole reason I made this thread.
I want to help both of them before they split up for something as stupid as trust
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Again I'm not getting involved.
I already struggle with friends and being pushed away its not cool and it happens sadly. Even if you both the same gender. Its lack of trust and it drive me up the wall.
I can't stand to see when having an So closes you off from all your friends and makes your SO your only to friend in many cases.
We all have best friends and other friends. And we all meet new friends people need more than just there SO.
And sense I feel really biased here I'm not going to say more.
Best of of luck to the OP. I hope things work out and you can fix things.
I agree actually. It strikes me as a teeny bit controlling that he gets all huffy about his girl talking to another guy.
Yeah!
YEeeeeah!
Ok Let me try this again. Read very slowly and take a riddilin pill. If you as a "Friend" know that you are causing another friend distress either emotional or physical are you not responsible to relieve him of his distress if you are the one who is causing it? Maybe I got this all wrong and your friend is a possessive asshole. Why would you want a possessive asshole as a friend anyways?
