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How do you feel about cat calling?

I guess it depends on the manner in which it is done. The whistling is tolerable, but when you're walking down the street with a 4 year old in hand and some jerk yells out, "Hey baby, why don't you come over here and balance those thighs on my balls!"... it's just sick. And that's coming from me...lol
 
I have mixed feelings about it. I started working where I was dealing with long haul truckers on a regular basis when I was 15 and I had a lot of inappropriate commentary coming my way. I worked in an office once and had to be escorted to my car for my own safety because there was a man who was asking around about me and was being very overtly creepy and weird and it scared me. Those one-off situations I was able to let go of because I was in a work environment and was otherwise safe and able to call for help if anyone crossed a line. It's uncomfortable in the moment being hit on or catcalled by people you just have no interest in and you are just minding your own business trying to do your thing.

I don't feel as much about that because for the most part outside of one or two incidents I never feared for my safety. However, I've been in a situation where I've had people who I was close to turn to sexually harassing me, begging me for sex, trying to guilt and manipulate me, etc. Because of my living circumstances I could not escape one person in particular and the sexual commentary began to wear me down over time. I imagine if I was a woman living in an area where I was catcalled everywhere I went it would feel as bad as being sexually harassed and manipulated while also, depending on the area and the people around me, feeling unsafe. I think that combination would get to me over time and would probably make me take a LOT of self defence classes or even make me consider moving to a different area. I can empathize with this. But for myself personally this is not really a feeling I get with one-off cat calls because I am not as regularly exposed to it in my day to day life.