Having this conversation on Facebook right now. An old high school friend I never really knew posted that video [MENTION=2240]rawr[/MENTION] put up and his comment was this: I don't understand this at all. Every single person in this video complimented her. How exactly does that fall under harassment? (Minus the creepy dude who followed her for 5 minutes)
Now to give you some context, my old high school friend is a gay male. I'm gonna post the conversation with the first letter of the posters names. S is the gay guy from high school.
I was the first to reply:
Me:Those aren't compliments, that is a mans passive aggressive way of telling a woman he wants to have sex with her and she should want to have sex with him too. Women do this too but men are more aggressive and women are more at risk of being raped. Walking on the street having strange men make comments like that is creepy as hell and it's something that women have every right to be paranoid or fearful about.
S:The implications are obvious but that still doesnt make it harassment. It's also broad daylight so chances of her being raped are slim. Had this been a situation like work or late at night, you might have a case. For me, this is ridiculous.
A: I agree Stephen, she walks, she's pretty, she gets compliments. Women see men who are good looking walking down the street and think the same thing, but the way society has shaped us makes it less likely for women to voice their opinions out loud. Just because a man voices his opinion about a woman's looks doesn't make him a rapist.
S: Alex, you're an intelligent woman.
A: Thanks
S: And pretty, too. Oops, now I'm a rapist.
A: Lol!
S: I'm fearing for my life bahaha
A: Haha
C: It seems like men are very friendly in NY...but it is a little freaky when men start making comments about the way one looks. Makes you very self conscious and you always think twice about what to wear. I myself don't like that extra attention from men I don't know. (I've had a stalker and that's how it started I was naive and gave him my number.)
S: Don't fear men. I don't. I just roll my eyes and walk the other way when a fugly guy hits on me.
C: I don't..just that MF lol he did some creepy things. Ugh I'm ready to call the cops or have my husband beat him up if I ever see him again.
A: I just have the "boys will be boys" mentality. Yes, there is extreme cat calling and harassment, but most of the guys in this video were just giving compliments. She was the bitch that didn't say thank you lol
So lets recap: they took what I said in the context of any male who hits on a woman is a rapist. A gay male is telling women to not fear men. Oh, and boys will be boys.
This conversation makes my head hurt way too much -_-