@Asa, in your husband's defense, it'd be a lot less annoying to put dishes in the dishwasher if the machine were designed differently, e.g., not having to drop the door to ankle level to get stuff in. Not to mention the water dripping the whole trip from the sink to the machine.
Part of me could see how letting them all pile up at once then loading and running them all in one shot seems efficient. But that'd take away precious counter and sink space.
I've recently got myself trained to stick my stuff in there immediately after use. Makes it so much easier.
The not putting dirty clothes in the hamper thing-- I can't think of any excuse for that. Unless maybe the hamper is in a weird spot, like the closet... requiring him to open a door to put away his dirty clothes, instead of just the main task.
The second option below is the one I'd pick. That's reasonable. Anything less is lazy and anything more is too many steps for dirty clothes!
1. Clothes off (your husband's method?)
Vs. Any of these:
2. Clothes off > put clothes in hamper
3. Clothes off > open closet door > put clothes in hamper
Adding an extra step here for effect:
4. Clothes off > open closet door > open hamper lid! > put clothes in hamper