With all the recent issues that have come up in my life regarding being WRONGED within my oldest son's extracurricular activities (and husband) by 4 adults in particular, I am having a lot of trouble figuring out how to forgive and move on. More problems are surfacing now. I am indirectly affected on an administrative level, but directly affected on personal level because it involves my younger son's group. I am not asking what to do, as I have already decided that once my youngest son finishes this term (which is next Monday) ... we will be joining a new group so I can get away from people who are abusing their power. I will not go into details because that is not what this thread is about.
The positive aspect of what happened, is that it gave me the desire to be closer to God and to find him within myself again. I am thankful for that.
Everyone has their own definition of forgiveness. I have found that I don't forgive as much as I run away ... far far away when there is no resolve, but the problem is being able to let the incident go within myself. I can change my external surroundings, but it doesn't change what is going on inside. Please note that I don't think forgiveness is a grey area. Forgiveness is not about placing conditions. To me it is very black and white, you either forgive or you don't. As much as I sometimes loathe bringing in the MBTI element into the picture, now is a perfect time to do so. ISFJ: I believe in justice. I hold myself to high ethical standards ESPECIALLY when it involves children. These 4 people went against everything that I know as a human being. Here is where you can throw MBTI out of the picture: I have the desire to forgive what happened and those people in particular, but how? In my thought process I can only find forgiveness when the WRONG has been corrected. I know this is not always possible, but I want to rid myself of the negative aftermath. It's not deserving of my attention or energy.
When you find yourselves in this type of predicament, how do you forgive? What do you do?
The positive aspect of what happened, is that it gave me the desire to be closer to God and to find him within myself again. I am thankful for that.
Everyone has their own definition of forgiveness. I have found that I don't forgive as much as I run away ... far far away when there is no resolve, but the problem is being able to let the incident go within myself. I can change my external surroundings, but it doesn't change what is going on inside. Please note that I don't think forgiveness is a grey area. Forgiveness is not about placing conditions. To me it is very black and white, you either forgive or you don't. As much as I sometimes loathe bringing in the MBTI element into the picture, now is a perfect time to do so. ISFJ: I believe in justice. I hold myself to high ethical standards ESPECIALLY when it involves children. These 4 people went against everything that I know as a human being. Here is where you can throw MBTI out of the picture: I have the desire to forgive what happened and those people in particular, but how? In my thought process I can only find forgiveness when the WRONG has been corrected. I know this is not always possible, but I want to rid myself of the negative aftermath. It's not deserving of my attention or energy.
When you find yourselves in this type of predicament, how do you forgive? What do you do?