Bump. Here comes my first angry outburst on this forum. Get ready.
My ESTJ cousin is driving me crazy. Every time she walks in the room, all I want to do is run. And she knows this. She makes me feel so threatened. And she seems to take delight in it - she'll sit down next to me and I know she's counting how many seconds until I make an excuse to leave. And if I try to show her that I need space, she'll play dumb - always following me, thinking that if I spend time with her I'll feel better.
She always thinks she knows best. She won't let anyone do anything. She literally skips around the house looking for business to stick her nose into. I decided to be nice and make her cookies. But every five minutes she skips in and opens the oven door, checks on them. When I'm getting them of the pan, she starts to take the spatula from me, saying, "I like spatuling..." She has to touch my hand to get it, and as soon as she touches me I have no choice but to jump away. I'm truly afraid of her. And all I wanted was to do her a favor so she'd leave me alone.
I can be very possessive, and I hate it when people use my things with out asking. I was reading on the couch, and she skips over and plucks my guitar. It's not like she asked, "can I try this?", she just bends over and saws at a string. (She doesn't play.) I gave her the meanest glare I could (which for me is basically going cross-eyed, I'm not a very menacing person) but she didn't see.
I've tried to understand why I am so repulsed by her but it doesn't get me anywhere. We're certainly fundamentally different, but she can't accept that. She seems to expect everyone to just love to be helped and attended to, whilst following her orders and smiling. AHH ANGER. Someone help me.