First of all, you are not out of line at all. This is a place to learn and I am willing to help.
A person is capable of feeling and thinking all at the same time and to assume otherwise is ridiculous. What I am talking about here is where you draw your reason (thinking) and where you draw your values.
In MBTI tests, don't they say you have this % of F and this % of T? Which doesn't mean your good at one and bad at the other. It only means, what is your natural preference to go to or lean on when making decisions.
However, there is a difference in orientation (extroverted and introverted) of those preferences:
In an Fe-Ti: Feelings are draw from what the collective feels, while the reasoning is completely specific to the person.
In a Te-Fi: Reason is drawn from the what collective thinks is correct, while the feeling is completely specific to the person.
As an NTJ: This is what the books, the experts and the research proves to be correct, but *I* as an individual don't find it right or ethical to me.
As an NFJ: This is what the population, the friends, the family and the group seem to find right and appreciated, but *I* as an individual don't think it makes sense to me.
Feel free to ask further if you so wish to. :thumb: