Back on topic.
I find the author of the article in question is making many assumptions and opining judgement as to the reasons why someone is genuinely “empathetic”.
It isn’t always mirroring...maybe it is for the author, but I would say that this type of mirroring would occur more often in younger INFJs who are still in HS or such and feel the urge to be someone other then themselves.
Being altruistic and empathetic is not always a self-centered, or self-serving undertaking...and will quite often turn into a negative action with such a mindset (selfish) imho.
I feel that the author whittles it down to that assumption that REAL empathy is nonexistent.
(This goes along with the materialism of western science - that we have no true free will, it’s all just a program in the brain and we are only given the false view that we are making our own choices when in fact we are not - that would make no sense from an evolutionary standpoint)
What a sad and lonely thought about humanity in general...not to mention the further assumptions that INFJs are somehow not really being empathetic but are mirroring that person’s sadness or whatever in order to help them feel better.....yeah, no.
He/she makes sure to call it an “unconscious” action, and has taken true feelings of empathy off the table as a real possibility.
If he/she can’t also discuss and understand true empathy, then I have doubts about all they say as he/she projects their own feelings (or lack of) onto the INFJ type.
No we don’t ride luck dragons (except in our heads).
(Not to mention again that the author also talks about others stroking their egos while they do so throughout the article.)
I wonder if the author has felt real empathy themselves.
It’s not a selfish way of being or feeling.