I don't think this is the answer, but perhaps you're in a country where this actually makes sense (not the US)
Dating that Leads to Marriage?
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"Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart
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Huh? In the United States there is absolutely a bias in favor of the "family man."
Family is an everywhere thing. Safe and successful marriages isn't, not here.
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"Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart
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I never thought about getting married. Most of the people I dated were for companionship or sex.
I'd get married now though.
I'd get married now though.
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Would you marry any of the people you dated in the past?
No. I can see very clearly that we would never have been compatible long term because we weren't even compatible short term.
I am not in touch with anyone that I was involved with in the past so who knows, maybe the people we became could have worked it out but based on what I knew of them at the time, I don't think so.
It's not even exclusively a problem with them. I wasn't great either.
you know, I use dating sites and apps simply to enjoy communication with opposite sex. So, it depends, if the person wants a serious relationship, he will certainly search for a woman who won't be frivolous. Personally, if I date with a woman for about 3-4 weeks it means that I became devoted to her and I want serious relationship at subconscious level with her. Honestly, I had a lot of relationships due to the fact that I used a lot of cougar apps, that helped me find suitable woman, and you know, I was dating for about 3-4 weeks with 6 woman, but, unfortunately, I had to leave each of them due to different causes... Hope, that till my 35 I will find a reliable person no matter using dating sites and apps or on the street, at least to meet her...I'm curious as to what your intentions are when dating someone? Do you date someone with an end-goal of marriage in mind (if all goes well of course), or is it mostly for fun/companionship without thinking about a serious commitment? When do you start to think about your significant other in that regard and wonder what a future together would look like?
For me personally, I find "dating for fun" to be a waste of time and unfulfilling. I am really hoping that my next relationship leads to a marriage. I'm getting too old (25) for the games that so many like to play nowadays. It may be unusual for a man (but then again I'm an INFP, so "typical" doesn't really apply. lol) but with the girl I like I sometimes think of how her last name would sound with mine.I also think about my future kids and what I would name them, etc. Am I so unusual for a man?
I really don't think I could date someone, especially if I loved her, without thinking about marriage, even if it was quite aways off into the future. I guess I'm a long-term commitment kind of guy. People who don't want this tend to baffle me.
Thoughts?