hi everyone,
i feel like i have just broken up with my oldest friend. we've known each other since we were 13/14 and were each others bridesmaids. she has spent the last few months not talking to me, and i have been wondering what is going on. we finally emailed about it over the last few days and it has all blown up... with the underlying message being she no longer wants to be close to me as i am too much, i experience things too dramatically, and i am way too open with her.
i feel like i have just been honest and open and tried to work through things, while she has shut me out, pretty much told me she doesn't like me anymore and that she is seeking to redefine our relationship boundaries.
she wants me to be 'like a normal friend', which of course i think i am being. i think she has lots of levels of friends and is pushing me outside a level or something. whereas for me, i have people i trust, and people i don't... she has promptly moved herself to those i don't.
overall i feel like she is redefining things according to her needs, without consideration of me/my feelings or even valuing who i am and what i bring to the relationship. i think we have just gone through a typical infj/estp blow up.....
but i am wondering if anyone else has been through a similar thing, and how they resolved it, and whether i should hold hope for a reconciliation. or do i have such a different view of friendship/trust to her that we will never see eye to eye?
i feel like i have just broken up with my oldest friend. we've known each other since we were 13/14 and were each others bridesmaids. she has spent the last few months not talking to me, and i have been wondering what is going on. we finally emailed about it over the last few days and it has all blown up... with the underlying message being she no longer wants to be close to me as i am too much, i experience things too dramatically, and i am way too open with her.
i feel like i have just been honest and open and tried to work through things, while she has shut me out, pretty much told me she doesn't like me anymore and that she is seeking to redefine our relationship boundaries.
she wants me to be 'like a normal friend', which of course i think i am being. i think she has lots of levels of friends and is pushing me outside a level or something. whereas for me, i have people i trust, and people i don't... she has promptly moved herself to those i don't.
overall i feel like she is redefining things according to her needs, without consideration of me/my feelings or even valuing who i am and what i bring to the relationship. i think we have just gone through a typical infj/estp blow up.....
but i am wondering if anyone else has been through a similar thing, and how they resolved it, and whether i should hold hope for a reconciliation. or do i have such a different view of friendship/trust to her that we will never see eye to eye?