AntoniaDodge
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What is the greatest source of pain and/or frustration in an INFJ's personal and/or professional life?
What is the greatest source of pain and/or frustration in an INFJ's personal and/or professional life?
Avoidance.
INFJs are highly calculating when it comes to effort. They usually contemplate beforehand how much effort a task is going to take and how likely they are to succeed and then they determine whether or not they care to go forward with it. As such, INFJs talk themselves out of doing things that they should do.
Hence, INFJs who are prone to stress will get into an avoidance/stress cycle, where whenever they feel stress, they will avoid what they need to do in order to escape the stress, and this of course will eventually lead to more stress, which they will once again avoid until the stress builds to the point that it makes the INFJ physically or mentally ill.
INFJs are also prone to feeling intense feelings about what is going on around them. For example, INFJs can feel a great deal of rage as a result of social injustice and if they avoid doing anything, then they will begin to feel a lot of frustration with the world and themselves.
This is a very considered response, Satya. I appreciate it.
What do you find are the most frequent triggers of stress?
Sudden shifts... rapid drastic changes... unexpected events... those sorts of things make me all kinds of tense and stressed. Things that disrupt my percieved future are generally upsetting to me, though I do seem to bounce back quickly in most cases.
An accumulation of little things can become a big stressor, which I think is what Satya was talking about... it occurs after a period of avoidance of various things.
Which reminds me of the importance of being pro-active thread. Ah, I am piecing together some good self therapy here.
People to connect with is my biggest frustration. I've found what I need and want in friendships and relationships - is in short supply. That is depth.
As I journey through life often I see only fragments of people peeking out behind their walls in my day to day interactions. Its so frustrating. I think our culture (United States) also strongly encourages a lack of depth. Keeping people fixated on Paris Hilton allows people to make money.
I need more than discussion of Britney Spears and who's hot in People Magazine.
People to connect with is my biggest frustration. I've found what I need and want in friendships and relationships - is in short supply. That is depth.
As I journey through life often I see only fragments of people peeking out behind their walls in my day to day interactions. Its so frustrating. I think our culture (United States) also strongly encourages a lack of depth. Keeping people fixated on Paris Hilton allows people to make money.
I need more than discussion of Britney Spears and who's hot in People Magazine.
YES. i frequently do not what to do when other girls discuss celebrity gossip, who's hot on campus, the clothes they want, makeup, hair...etc. i don't have anything against topics like those, in fact sometimes they are interesting, but i have such a lack of focus on those areas that it's really very draining a conversation to sit through.
People to connect with is my biggest frustration. I've found what I need and want in friendships and relationships - is in short supply. That is depth.
As I journey through life often I see only fragments of people peeking out behind their walls in my day to day interactions. Its so frustrating. I think our culture (United States) also strongly encourages a lack of depth. Keeping people fixated on Paris Hilton allows people to make money.
I need more than discussion of Britney Spears and who's hot in People Magazine.
Suggestion: Deliberately torture the girls who talk like that by questioning why they think what they think and proving their thoughts faulty. 98.3% of the time they won't understand they've just been outsmarted.