the following are from a 1950s home economics textbook for women about how to treat their husbands. it's kind of creepy thinking of the expectations back then. anyway, i thought i would steal them and change them up. i think they are better as guidelines for how we could all treat ourselves at the end of a long day:
-Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal. This is a way of letting (you) know that you have been thinking about (you) and are concerned about (your) needs. Most people are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
-Prepare yourself for (your) arrival home. Wash up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. (You) may have just been with a lot of weary people through the day. So be a little gay. (Your) tiresome day may need a lift.
-Clear away the clutter. Make a quick trip around the main part of the house to gather up books, toys, paper, etc. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your (self) will feel that (you) have reached a haven of rest and order by coming home.
-Prepare the children (cats/dogs/housemates) for (your) arrival: Take a few minutes to have them wash their hands and faces, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and your (self) would like to see them playing the part.
-Minimize all noise: At the time of (your) arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Put on some quiet background music. Be happy to see (yourself). Greet (yourself) with a warm smile and an embrace.
-Some don'ts: Don't greet (yourself) with problems or complaints. Consider what (you) might have gone through that day. When (you) are more relaxed, these things can be talked through in a calm manner, and (you) will feel appreciated for the opportunity to give advice.
-Make (yourself) comfortable: Have (yourself) lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that (you) lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for (yourself). Arrange (your) pillow and offer to take off (your) shoes. Speak to (yourself) in a low, soft soothing and pleasant voice. Allow (yourself) to relax-unwind.
-Listen to (you): There may be a dozen things to do, but the moment of (your) arrival is not the time. Let (you) talk about your day, or anything else on (your) mind first.
-Make the evening (yours): Never complain if (you) do not want to go out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand (your) world of strain and pressure, and (your) need to be home and relax awhile.
-Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal. This is a way of letting (you) know that you have been thinking about (you) and are concerned about (your) needs. Most people are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
-Prepare yourself for (your) arrival home. Wash up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. (You) may have just been with a lot of weary people through the day. So be a little gay. (Your) tiresome day may need a lift.
-Clear away the clutter. Make a quick trip around the main part of the house to gather up books, toys, paper, etc. then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your (self) will feel that (you) have reached a haven of rest and order by coming home.
-Prepare the children (cats/dogs/housemates) for (your) arrival: Take a few minutes to have them wash their hands and faces, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and your (self) would like to see them playing the part.
-Minimize all noise: At the time of (your) arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Put on some quiet background music. Be happy to see (yourself). Greet (yourself) with a warm smile and an embrace.
-Some don'ts: Don't greet (yourself) with problems or complaints. Consider what (you) might have gone through that day. When (you) are more relaxed, these things can be talked through in a calm manner, and (you) will feel appreciated for the opportunity to give advice.
-Make (yourself) comfortable: Have (yourself) lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that (you) lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for (yourself). Arrange (your) pillow and offer to take off (your) shoes. Speak to (yourself) in a low, soft soothing and pleasant voice. Allow (yourself) to relax-unwind.
-Listen to (you): There may be a dozen things to do, but the moment of (your) arrival is not the time. Let (you) talk about your day, or anything else on (your) mind first.
-Make the evening (yours): Never complain if (you) do not want to go out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand (your) world of strain and pressure, and (your) need to be home and relax awhile.
