this is something I have a lot of problems with.
I'm the sort of person who has always had to do things on my own in earlier life, so I'm finding it very hard to simply accept the fact that sometimes, partners can love you enough to do things for you. recently my fiance payed off all my outstanding debt, and I'm having a trouble overcoming my anger about that. I'm greatful, don't think i'm not, but i'm angry too. angry because I hate accepting gifts of this magnitude, because it's a reminder of how little I have compared to he who has it all....and it makes me feel pathetic and everyone around him feel that i'm in it for the money, whitch I'm not, since I didn't know he had any when I fell for him.
I'm also very touchy about how much I let people do for me physically. the most important thing to me in the whole world is being independent enough, and priving my independence to the world because of the fact that the world is full of so many ignorant people. I don't like people helping me with physical stuff because I'm worried about their motives, like if they are doing it because I have a physical disability, whitch is unacceptable to me, or if they're only doing it because they love me, whitch is still slightly unacceptable if it's in public, as I don't like other people seeing things being done for me that I do not need.
people in the world who seem to think that every disabled person is a dribbling idiot really need to take a step back and realise that most of their 'helpful' gestures are actually pointless little tasks that we can do for ourselves, and that it's not a good thing to 'help' someone if you also want to ask them a stupid question that's been nagging at them for a while, or demonstrate that they know all about disabled people because their grandmother went blind. that's what the internet is for.
case in point: some idiot yesterday opened a door for me, but failed to realise that I was going to open it myself and therefore opened it right into my hand, causing me to drop what I was carrying and hurt my hand.
so yeah, I have issues.