1) Where are you likely to be found outside of the Internet?
Nowhere exclusively social. I'm
very rarely in bars, club or pubs. Coffee shops or cafe's- maaaaaaybe. If you really wanna find me, you'd have to be involved in my activities/job.
So involve yourself in my life, because I rarely go out of my way to involve myself in yours unless I already know you.
2) How does one recognize you in public?
If I'm in a crowd or not participating, I'll be the quiet and reserved but alert. I'll be the scanning the environment for details when I'm feeling dis attached or despondent. If I'm feeling good I'll just staring into the sky or at hot girls.
I look occupied, whatever I'm doing. Any time I'm in public I feel like I need to have a purpose or reason for being there. I try to maintain a constant sense of awareness which can make me seem distant but if you actually approach me with a non-high horse, friendly (but not too friendly, I'm very suspicious) way, I'll respond warmly and helpfully.
If I'm talking or I'm the centre of attention I'll speak A LOT. I'll talk fast and use lots of gesticulation with my hands. I'm either explaining something with
life or death conviction or arguing/running rings around someone verbally.
(What?! I'm no the only one who does this?!)
3) How would one go about attracting you?
Just listen to what I'm saying and show genuine interest. Relate my experiences and activities to yours. Create connections between my feelings and experience with yours. If you can connect pieces of your experience/life with mine then that shows empathy and intuition.
Let a bit of yourself go emotionally. If I feel that someone feels comfortable enough to reveal a genuine bit of themselves then that shows that they are emotionally intelligent and have a great depth of feeling and that we relate on some level.
(That's extremely important!) Showing a vulnerable side is good. I want to see that you are a deep feeler/thinker.
If I sense any dishonesty I'm gone.
(How True!)
Don't be a sugar coated Missy. Overly "precious", "cautious" or "sensitive" girls don't seem confident and are frustrating.
It screams fragile to me, and I don't want a fragile girl. Jokes shows you're down to earth, for me.
Keep the swearing to a minimum. Showing that you have dislikes and that there are things that rub you the wrong way, that your capable of having a resentful side- shows your human! I find overly "sweet" or "nice" people stressful to be around because
it feels absolutely ingenuine, and I'll ask myself what/why you're hiding.
Physical touch is awesome. That will send a clear message through my thick skull, backing up the verbal with physical. It also shows your not made of glass and that you
have confidence in yourself. I'd wait before you start doing that though, otherwise I'll get overwhelmed.
Be patient! Don't force me into social situation without giving me enough time. I Don't like surprises, I need time to prepare for things.
Once you've earned my trust, I'm much more able to handle surprises, and feel much less awkward socially.
Reply to my messages. That drives me absolutely insane when people "forget" to reply or simply don't. Take any correspondence that I initiate as a blessing because it's very rare for me to do that!