Adult High School

[dang]

Do you feel that this forum is merely a recapitulation of high school? How does this forum remind you of your high school experience? How are you actively trying to be cool and popular here? How do you feel the seniors treat the freshmen? How do you like the teachers? Are you trying to be something you weren't able to be in high school, like accepted? Are there bullies? Are there cliques? Are there jocks? The questions and metaphors are endless. I will kick things off by saying that I was invisible in high school. I have already discussed this earlier. Now I am not invisible. It occurred to me that perhaps I am trying to do things differently and make a more pronounced impression here than I did then. It has worked so far, since I had no close friends in high school, while I feel like I am on my way to making some close friends via this forum. So that is cool for me. How about you? Does this forum feel like high school again, or the opposite or something else? Curious to see where this goes. I will suck up by saying the mods/teachers seem cool. Wyote for example seems way cooler than my English teacher Mr. Bride was. Although that is setting the bar pretty low. Anyway, discuss, and be polite:

 

[the]

I was way morr popular in high school... and thinner too.

 

[invisible]

It was a nightmare. I hated it.

 

[dang]

It was a nightmare. I hated it.

Do you like the forum better than you did high school? My high school experience was torture. I would rather lose both of my legs than go through that misery again.

 

[Rcs6r]

I think like-minded people definitely communicate with each other more here, like in most social settings, but I don't necessarily get a "high school" vibe.

I also can't compare my high school self to my forum self, because I was very quiet and shy back then and here, well, here if I was quiet I wouldn't be posting! Also my mind and personality are waaaaay more developed than when I was a teen.

We have many different ages present on the forum. If anything, the atmosphere is like a convention rather than school.

 

[Sriracha]

This forum is nothing like high school. I liked high school, AND I like this forum. I think newbies are treated pretty well; however you have to realize there is always a period of adjustment on our part. It doesn't mean we don't want new folks ... on the contrary WE DO, we just need a little bit of time to get to know your personality. At the same time, there is no "right way" to begin a forum .. except to jump into the deep end feet first. I think everyone here is accepting of others overall. You should be able to express your opinion, as adversarial as it might be.

I remember reading one of your posts saying you didn't have any friends. Learn from this forum what it takes to have friendship with others irl. The FIRST being that you respect others for what makes them different; don't downplay them or try to change their beliefs. You don't walk in their shoes and they certainly don't walk in yours.

Good Luck to you.

 

[dang]

I think like-minded people definitely communicate with each other more here, like in most social settings, but I don't necessarily get a "high school" vibe.

I also can't compare my high school self to my forum self, because I was very quiet and shy back then and here, well, here if I was quiet I wouldn't be posting! Also my mind and personality are waaaaay more developed than when I was a teen.

We have many different ages present on the forum. If anything, the atmosphere is like a convention rather than school.

What type of school or convention does this forum resemble? Comic Con?

 

[Rcs6r]

What type of convention does this forum resemble?

A psychology convention.

 

[ZcM4xzkjgzCjytBc]

This forum is nothing like high school. I liked high school, AND I like this forum. I think newbies are treated pretty well; however you have to realize there is always a period of adjustment on our part. It doesn't mean we don't want new folks ... on the contrary WE DO, we just need a little bit of time to get to know your personality. At the same time, there is no "right way" to begin a forum .. except to jump into the deep end feet first. I think everyone here is accepting of others overall. You should be able to express your opinion, as adversarial as it might be.

I remember reading one of your posts saying you didn't have any friends. Learn from this forum what it takes to have friendship with others irl. The FIRST being that you respect others for what makes them different; don't downplay them or try to change their beliefs. You don't walk in their shoes and they certainly don't walk in yours.

Good Luck to you.

This was probably explained to him 5 times already. What gets me is he thinks he is entitled to everyone's attention, and that we should all stop to explain the same shit over and over, giving him so many chances as if he has special needs. The only reason he's still here is because we all feel bad that he actually believes what he's saying, and we want to be so considerate, and prove him wrong. He'll just cry "oppression!" again, and we'll all say "no, we're not like that! please try to understand!"

 

[dang]

Ignore list.

So, does this forum remind anyone of high school? Who is the valedictorian here? Not me.

 

[invisible]

Do you like the forum better than you did high school? My high school experience was torture. I would rather lose both of my legs than go through that misery again.

It seems OK here, I may stick around for a while.

Some of us have been here a long time and we have seen each other go through huge personal changes. Some of us wrote threads that contained detailed information about our selves and lives that have been archived and are no longer accessible, but that others here have read.

We have seen many members come and go. Sometimes they have departed the forum, sometimes departed this world. Sometimes out of nowhere I start worrying about some totally long gone member (I hope you're doing OK, [MENTION=2398]middle1[/MENTION]).

I don't think it's much like high school really. Some of us have long friendships. But there are too many differences of opinion and people are too passionate about their ideas.

 

[dang]

It seems OK here, I may stick around for a while.

Some of us have been here a long time and we have seen each other go through huge personal changes. Some of us wrote threads that contained detailed information about our selves and lives that have been archived and are no longer accessible, but that others here have read.

We have seen many members come and go. Sometimes they have departed the forum, sometimes departed this world. Sometimes out of nowhere I start worrying about some totally long gone member (I hope you're doing OK, [MENTION=2398]middle1[/MENTION]).

I don't think it's much like high school really. Some of us have long friendships. But there are too many differences of opinion and people are too passionate about their ideas.

How do you feel about high school reunions?

 

[Artisan]

Do you feel that this forum is merely a recapitulation of high school?

No

How does this forum remind you of your high school experience?

not at all

How are you actively trying to be cool and popular here?

I'm not, im just being my genuine self. That is why I am here, because I can be myself with the people on this forum.

How do you feel the seniors treat the freshmen?

very well, though ofc, just like in any community if someone steps out of line too far, people will receive some indication that they did so, this is usually a thumbs down if its really bad or a pm/somewhat unpositive quote of the exact thing that made you cross the line for them. In the worst case its negative rep.

How do you like the teachers?

I pretty much like all the mods.

Are you trying to be something you weren't able to be in high school, like accepted?

No, I'm old enough to realise that there is no point in not being anything other than ones genuine self. Either people accept you, or they don't, you're either liked or your not. If you're not, then its better to not waste energy and find a place where you are, if you are, then that is great. But if theres one thing I know triggers the most dislike here specifically it is wearing a mask. And in highschool, it was the other way around ;p

Are there bullies?

Hmmmm I remember I had had a difficult time of it with a specific member, but he backed off after a while after an exchange or two and I think that whilst we are not friends or fond of eachother, we respect eachother and our differences, something that I think can be evidenced by the occasional like on each others posts. But that's the thing really, this is not highschool, you wont find people who go out of their way to make someone miserable here. If people don't like eachother, they usually just toss eachother on ignore or simply don't spend their energy on arguing.

Are there cliques?

No, not really. I think everyone is very fluid in who'm they converse with privately here, sometimes visitor messages are primarily from one or two people and a month or two later its from others. A lot of us do form some level of friendships here though.

Are there jocks?

Nah

How about you? Does this forum feel like high school again, or the opposite or something else?

It's nothing like highschool for me. The majority of the people respect eachother for who they are regardless of whether or not they are in agreement, mistakes are generally forgiven and everybody is fairly supportive as long as things dont get too crazy or too frequent. I think that for most of us more sensitive souls this place is more of a place where we can still socialise being ourselves when we're on low energy levels and are in the process of recharging but still need some level of interaction with others.

 

[dang]

No

not at all

I'm not, im just being my genuine self. That is why I am here, because I can be myself with the people on this forum.


very well, though ofc, just like in any community if someone steps out of line too far, people will receive some indication that they did so, this is usually a thumbs down if its really bad or a pm/somewhat unpositive quote of the exact thing that made you cross the line for them. In the worst case its negative rep.


I pretty much like all the mods.


No, I'm old enough to realise that there is no point in not being anything other than ones genuine self. Either people accept you, or they don't, you're either liked or your not. If you're not, then its better to not waste energy and find a place where you are, if you are, then that is great. But if theres one thing I know triggers the most dislike here specifically it is wearing a mask. And in highschool, it was the other way around ;p


Hmmmm I remember I had had a difficult time of it with a specific member, but he backed off after a while after an exchange or two and I think that whilst we are not friends or fond of eachother, we respect eachother and our differences, something that I think can be evidenced by the occasional like on each others posts. But that's the thing really, this is not highschool, you wont find people who go out of their way to make someone miserable here. If people don't like eachother, they usually just toss eachother on ignore or simply don't spend their energy on arguing.


No, not really. I think everyone is very fluid in who'm they converse with privately here, sometimes visitor messages are primarily from one or two people and a month or two later its from others. A lot of us do form some level of friendships here though.


Nah


It's nothing like highschool for me. The majority of the people respect eachother for who they are regardless of whether or not they are in agreement, mistakes are generally forgiven and everybody is fairly supportive as long as things dont get too crazy or too frequent. I think that for most of us more sensitive souls this place is more of a place where we can still socialise being ourselves when we're on low energy levels and are in the process of recharging but still need some level of interaction with others.

Very thorough. Good points. Are you sure there are no jocks? Are infjs known for being poor athletes?

 

[Artisan]

Very thorough. Good points. Are you sure there are no jocks? Are infjs known for being poor athletes?

For many of us sports are not at the forefront of our interests.
A large number of us also aren't the type that used to hang out with jocks in highschool and vise versa.
IF there are jocks on this forum, they're keeping sports out of it.

 

[dang]

For many of us sports are not at the forefront of our interests.
A large number of us also aren't the type that used to hang out with jocks in highschool and vise versa.
IF there are jocks on this forum, they're keeping sports out of it.

My high school class was mostly jocks. I was too small to play football so I was left out. Athletic ability, size and speed don't matter much on this forum. I actually wish my high school was more like this forum. I would have learned much more. Why can't they teach mbti in high school? That would be a cool class. I wasn't really exposed to anything interesting until college. High school was pretty boring academically. Too bad.

 

[Artisan]

My high school class was mostly jocks. I was too small to play football so I was left out. Athletic ability, size and speed don't matter much on this forum. I actually wish my high school was more like this forum. I would have learned much more. Why can't they teach mbti in high school? That would be a cool class. I wasn't really exposed to anything interesting until college. High school was pretty boring academically. Too bad.

I don't know. But I would have liked to have been in a class with more introverts. Especially more INFJ's, I really wonder what other INFJ's are like in person.

 

[dang]

I don't know. But I would have liked to have been in a class with more introverts. Especially more INFJ's, I really wonder what other INFJ's are like in person.

Have you never met one? I don't know if I have either. But odds are we both have but didn't realize it. Infjs should wear a special ring so they can recognize one another. That would make things easier. Otherwise it is really hard to tell without a long conversation.

 

[Artisan]

Have you never met one? I don't know if I have either. But odds are we both have but didn't realize it. Infjs should wear a special ring so they can recognize one another. That would make things easier. Otherwise it is really hard to tell without a long conversation.

nope I havent, but introverts do have a more difficult time to connect even with other introverts, because you're more inclined to recognise eachother and respect eachothers space. Thus you won't quickly run into an introvert who is also an infj. I for one have not met any, though I've met several INFP's and I think they're awesome. With INTJ's and INTP's its usually a, theyre alright or not my type of crowd feeling for me. Add to that that the majority in my country of residence appears to be extroverted and you can pretty easily see the handfull of people who are introverted though usually they're not NF's. I also do a direction that is primarily dominated by men, who seem less prone to be NF's. I always get along really well with those I do come across though but they're always INFP's when they take the test

 

[dang]

nope I havent, but introverts do have a more difficult time to connect even with other introverts, because you're more inclined to recognise eachother and respect eachothers space. Thus you won't quickly run into an introvert who is also an infj. I for one have not met any, though I've met several INFP's and I think they're awesome. With INTJ's and INTP's its usually a, theyre alright or not my type of crowd feeling for me. Add to that that the majority in my country of residence appears to be extroverted and you can pretty easily see the handfull of people who are introverted though usually they're not NF's. I also do a direction that is primarily dominated by men, who seem less prone to be NF's. I always get along really well with those I do come across though but they're always INFP's when they take the test

I used to live in Oslo by the way. You been there? Beautiful city.